A generalized social anxiety disorder can be simply defined as: “fearing all social situations and feeling highly anxious while being in them.” And a specific social anxiety disorder can be defined as fearing only specific social situations, such as public speaking or meeting new people. Now in this article I will write about my personal story as to how my…

When I was about 16 years old I had an overwhelming fear of rejection. This showed up most obviously when I was around women I was attracted to. But I experienced it in almost all other areas of my life. I was afraid of meeting new people in general. I tried to stick with my own clan I knew from…

You know how facial blushing feels, right? You first hear that comment, you see that look or you say or do something that you think is “wrong”. You feel judged and you become ashamed and embarrassed. Then in a split second you feel that heat rush starting to come up. In my case going from my back, over my shoulders…

Let’s talk about the eye of judgement. You know what it is right? It’s that feeling that everyone is staring at you, paying attention to your every move. Silently judging you… In the previous article I told you about some basic things to do when making eye contact. And in this particular article I am going to give you the…

Conversation Questions Mastery Part 1/2: I always wanted to know what excellent conversation questions were. I desperately wanted to be an interesting conversation partner. I wanted them to walk off and think to themselves “Wow, Sebastiaan really is an interesting person to talk with”. I feared being seen as boring or weird… Since I’ve gotten over these insecurities, I’ve become…

In diagnosing social anxiety disorder there are a few routes to take. Before I get into those, let’s first determine what a social anxiety disorder (also called social phobia) is. When you have a social anxiety disorder you have and extreme, persistent and disabling fear of social situations. You will try to avoid as many of them as you possibly…

Developing habits to be more social is absolutely necessary to become a more socially well-adjusted person. This can be a bit challenging though… When I started developing habits to become a more social person -I still do this-, I ran into a lot of trouble. I would for instance procrastinate a lot by telling myself I didn’t prepare well enough,…

Dealing with social anxiety is extremely frustrating and challenging. Maybe you just found out that what you’ve been feeling is actually something that has a name; social anxiety disorder. Maybe you feel helpless and hopeless and don‘t know what to do or where to go. Or maybe you are already far in your journey to becoming socially confident. Wherever you…

In my youth I was a master in dealing with criticism. It would not affect me at all. In fact, I found it rather amusing. This was when I was a young kid though… I remember cheering in class when I got the lowest grade in exams. If someone would tell me I wouldn’t amount to anything I laughed at…

If you have been looking for counseling for social anxiety disorder, then you have probably found that it’s really challenging to find a good therapist. You probably also noticed that there are little people that actually have experience in helping people overcome social anxiety disorder. And of those select few that do have experience counseling for social anxiety disorder, very…