I had just graduated with a Masters degree followed by a promotion, but my life felt so meaningless.
The anxiety kept pushing through to the point where it was even waking me up in the middle of the night. My marriage became all about avoiding arguments and dealing with 8 years of infertility.
I had no friends, a negative outlook on life and could not be seen in public without imagining everybody judging me.
After a little short of a year of coaching with Sebastiaan I have a wonderful best friend, improved my relations at work, have stepped up in my career in the sense that I am managing other people for the first time in 22 years and am finally taking charge of my life.
It’s also great to notice that my outlook on life is naturally positive.
I am not exaggerating, but after each session I go to take the bus and tend to attract people towards me for a chat!
Sebastiaan is really great to work with, he has this way to come down to where you are and make you feel comfortable, gently leading you to where you want to be.
He also has a great sense of humor thus putting fun in the process!
I am not where I want to be yet, but I discovered that the key is in accepting our limitations and be kind to ourselves.
Angie
After my 3 sessions with Sebastiaan I’ve noticed marked differences in how I felt during social situations, I felt more at ease and able to contribute to conversations and really enjoy myself without having to worry about what others thought of me.Even though I still feel anxiety at times, I believe it is no more than a normal person would feel, and it does not affect me in a negative way.
My social anxiety is no longer controlling my life, and I am so grateful for that!
Thanks, Sebastiaan!
Trevor
I’ve been good. In fact I’ve had tremendous improvement on my social anxiety since our second session. I can’t say it’s completely gone but I have had major improvements and it doesn’t even cross my mind anymore most of the time. I will book a session soon for our last session.
Jonathan
After just one session, those feelings of discomfort had completely vanished, I found myself feeling completely calm and relaxed in situations that had previously made me stiffen up, feel self conscious, awkward and generally very uncomfortable. The results I have had have been amazing. After many years of trying various things in vain, I have seen spectacular results very quickly since working with sebastiaan. Quite frankly, I have never felt better and I strongly recommend his work, it has done wonders for me.
Charlie
As a psychotherapist myself with a history of social anxiety, talk therapy alone just wasn’t cutting it. Now I see the value of using a strong experiential component to give the painful feelings a chance to move out after being evoked.
That’s why the tapping works so well and quickly. It helps move out the feelings that Sebastiaan helps to call up.
Before I started tapping with Sebastiaan, I struggled with social anxiety for years worrying about sweating and blushing, embarrassment and humiliation, and anticipating all kinds of situations with trepidation.
I would isolate and hide to protect myself…
… and I’m a person who loves connection.
But I was really afraid of being judged as a freak and then devalued, rejected and dismissed because of it. It really limited my life.
It created unnecessary dependencies and A LOT of negative thoughts and beliefs about myself, a lot of shame, hopelessness, fear and an unwillingness to move forward in life. Boy was I doing a dance to get through every day.
The frustration and all that toxic energy that I was holding in my system was very uncomfortable. I was afraid to go to parties and definitely really scared to go alone.
I felt like I needed to please people to be accepted. I would hide from authority figures. I had trouble being assertive even though I have strong preferences.
The tapping sessions I’ve been doing with Sebastiaan have helped significantly. I have been in a lot of different types of therapy over the years and for me, this one is remarkably effective.
The combination of the tapping technique and Sebastiaan’s skills and insight have created more forward movement in a short period of time than ever before.
He really is an expert on social anxiety and all of the traps that a person with social anxiety finds himself in.
And I’m not gonna lie, I’m so impressed by him. It’s the combination of his ability to be highly attuned and so articulate that works so well.
His precision cuts through the walls and defenses, gets me in touch with the deeper feelings and assumptions, and with the tapping, moves it out… all while giving me a new and more effective way to frame how I can approach future situations feeling safe and interested in embracing life.
I’m happy to report that now I’m trying lots of things that I used to be afraid of.
I’m more interested in going to parties and I’m actually enjoying them. I’m less isolated and feel more secure with myself to engage with all different kinds of people.
I’m getting more in touch with what’s important to me and feel hopeful, and I’m so much less depressed.
My anxiety has reduced significantly.
When I do feel anxious as I try new things, I don’t shame myself for blushing or sweating or looking nervous.
I’m more proud of myself for sticking with it even when it’s uncomfortable.
Recently, I invited someone I was chatting with in line at a restaurant to join me and have a meal together. I NEVER would have done that before. It was exhilarating.
I went to a wedding reception on my own and it was fine. I’m excited to keep discovering myself. I’m excited to keep trusting myself and what I know is important to me. I’m learning to be less afraid of the unknown.
I’m even learning to let go of other people’s perceptions of me as I concern myself more with my own self acceptance.
My advice, give Sebastiian and this process a try. The proof is in the pudding. You’ll know if it’s working in a short period of time. No need to guess.
Adam D
– Psychotherapist
Hi Sebastiaan,
I was going to write you a testimonial, hopefully it serves you.
From the moment I hit puberty, around age 11, I started having trouble with social situations. My focus was more with the other kids, instead of having fun myself, and living my life. From that moment the discomfort and awkwardness has never left, and my problems only got worse in middle school. Here there were new kids, and older popular kids who always had something to say and were ready to verbally attack me.
I therefore remained silent and in the background. During this period of my life, when “popular” people started talking to me, I became extremely nervous. And when they were girls, I locked up and closed off completely. Also during my college years this problem remained. I made some slow progress, but the inner stress and worry (anxiety) remained constantly. During this period I also started to develop panic attacks, because I couldn’t deflate the anxiety. Especially when I got a girlfriend everything got worse and out of control. It eventually broke off after 3 years mainly because of my anxiety. After my study I’ve gone –mainly to overcome my problems, face my fears and face the unknown- on a wolrd trip. I thought that if I were to do that, then all my problems would resolve themselves. Unfortunately, this didn’t happen. Because after 5 months I came home earlier than planned, completely exhausted. I even started taking anti-despressive medication.
After many therapy sessions with psychologists, (3 years long) I found Sebastiaan’s Social Confidence System. I could relate to his story about his past, and decided to give it a go.
And I’m very happy I did! I definitely notice a difference. I’ve become comfortable in busy places (bars, cinemas, trains, restaurants, concerts, etc.) and have more energy to do what I feel like doing. Of course I sometimes still have some fear that something will go wrong, but the beauty of this program is that you take that into consideration, use EFT, and then go for it! I’m not anxiety-free yet, and I daily use EFT to keep moving forward. The differences with EFT before and after are very subtle, that’s the beauty of this. You sometimes after a few days think to yourself, he I don’t feel so nervous anymore. Step by step I become more and more calm and relaxed! Really a tremendous relief. That’s why I can say to you reading this, if you suffer from a social phobia, definitely give this program a chance!
– Florian*
Hey Sebastiaan,
What a day it was at school today. I felt 100x times better. When i was about to get anxious i just accepted everything and it worked! I didn’t felt anxious then.
Anyway i had feeling few times before but this time I’m more in control than ever…..i had a very calmed mind today, i think because of EFT tapping and self acceptance. I don’t know how but i just felt a lot more calmed today!!
Thanks a lot!
The last few days I have started to really feel a bit more
accepting and happy of myself 🙂
– X*
Hi Sebastiaan,
Thank you for sending the link, it’s great to hear about your experience, because for a long time I thought it’s only me with this problem. I’ve just recently found you on YouTube and then signed up onto your site and I started using your techniques.
I already feel the change, it’s brilliant and liberating, I never thought I’ll be able to talk to people again without going red in the face for no obvious reason. So it’s been life changing and a relief that I’m a normal person after all and not a weirdo, as I’d been feeling before.
I’m happy that it worked for you too and not suffering with SA anymore as where would I be without you :-))
– X*
Hey Sebastiaan,
So I’m persisting with the SCS system and I am seriously feeling mentally lighter each day.
– x*
Hi Sebastiaan,
I’m really enjoying the SCS and am finding it really helpful! I’ve been working on neutralizing my S.E.E.’s and am noticing a change in how I interact with people – more relaxed, etc.
– Kirsten*
First of all, congratulations with your program. It helps me step by step. I more and more frequently feel relaxed in social situations ? I no longer look up to “popular” people like I used to. That was my main problem. That feels completely resolved.
– x*
WOW!!! I feel a loooooooot better, I feel calm, just completely calm after doing the subconscious resistance. My heart isn’t beating fast, my face inst hot and red, like my ears, this is AWESOME! I feel so incredibly calm, it’s insane,
I never thought that I would feel like this. I did what you told me except I completed almost the whole page. I Have quite some time, so I’m going to be honest with you, I spent three hours on this, but I don’t regret it, and I don’t feel tired, I feel calm after doing the whole page. Very calm, In fact, I wan’t to go outside my neighborhood right now, and greet everyone I see, which is odd as hell. I feel blissful, and content.
I know you always said not to spend a long time on it, but I think spending a lot of time on it works for me, just because I’m so anxious. But to answer your question of steps, I’m following the workbook.
I have completed SAD structure and social confidence road map, wrote down all the answers and questions, read the rules, read articles about TRUE social confidence, tapped along to “afraid of doing eft correctly.” , Release general resistance of change, in this section I tapped a long to “overcoming common negative beliefs about possibility to change.” Downloaded a pdf to “changing beliefs of overcoming social anxiety.” , and that’s about it.
I stopped once you told me to do subconscious resistance, which I’m very happy about because My anxious heart seems to have disappeared! That’s where most of my anxiety is, my heart. But yes, I feel calm after doing this 🙂
– X*
In my world you can’t praise other people too much so here comes a praising mail to you
– In this moment I’m so happy and grateful, for having found this program and for the first time in my life, being apple to make EFT work for real. – I’ve now several times been able to remove a strong anxiety feeling in my solar plexus with only one round of tapping! (after I’ve applied the k+k tapping and removing the subconscious resistance for letting go of the feeling)
It’s such a step through for me – so many times in the past I’ve tried to work with my heavy emotions, especially this one in solar plexus and only manage to change it a few times out of many times trying. So actually being able to remove the same feeling so quickly is SO amazing! And with all this gratitude and happiness bursting through me, I wanted to send some of it your way for being so brave to make this program and stand forth to help other dealing with the same problem. What a treat for the world!
Thank you so very much
– Sunshine*
while I’m writing you anyway I want to say thank you for making this program! I’ve taking quit a journey myself to overcome this anxiety completely – been around a Master in NLP and various other techniques, (latest I attended a 3 day seminar with John Assaraf in San Diego – quite interesting!) and I’m sure that this, EFT, is the answer.
I also realize that learning this program, and EFT, gives me access to changing other beliefs and tapping other emotions away – so it’s so much more than just a “tapping-gate-way-to-high-social-confidence” it’s also a guiding system I can use in other parts of my life – and how awesome is that! 🙂
So thank you for designing this wonderful program! I think it’s so important to see you as a proof for the fact that it is actually achievable to release social anxiety for good. I’ve been looking for an example like yours.
– X*
Just to let you know.,have done the bundles work…it makes a lot more sense to me and feel a lot better…
thank you! 🙂
– Michelle*
Hey Sebastiaan,
I want express more appreciation to you fro creating the SCS… I’m well on my way to finally becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be 🙂
– Dustin*
Thanks for everything SEbastiaan, the SCS is BRILLIANT and so much woth every penny i paid for it ( and much much MORE!)
– Viviane*
Hi Sebaastian,
I want to thank you for creating such a great program. I bought the Social Confidence program about a week ago. I am at the step “Subconscious Resistance”. Wow… is all I can say. No wonder nothing I tried in the past has worked.
I am already feeling lighter and better about myself. I have never seen the structure of social anxiety and the solution to releasing the fear laid out so clearly before.
If the rest of the program is as effective as getting rid of the subconscious resistance as it is in getting rid of the actual social anxiety, $197 is VERY cheap. I am actually rethinking my career plans and am very excited about my future now.
Thank you very much!
– Dusty*
Hi sebastiaan,
I just wanna tell u that this is really the most powerful programei have ever tryed. Iam working on chilhood baggage step 3, and iam not finish at all, but i have already started to feel calm and at peace (which ihavent done the last 13 years) soo thank u.
I want u to know that your work makes a big difference, u help people u save people ( this maybe sound a bit dramatic to u but i really mean it ) bcozi know it from my self . I will recommend this scs to others aswell.
God bless u soo much.
– B*
i did the bundle thing and have actually noticed some results. im a server at a restaurant and conversations are lasting forever. loli use to be a robot with each table.
Also i was at a bar and a chick asked me to dance, which has never ever happened lol Thanks Bro!
– Jonathan
Thanks for your rich program – thus far. Only up to the subconscious resistance step 4 or so out of 18? Looking forward to being committed to doing the work. I believe that even if I don’t get it all ‘cured’ EFT is bound to make a dent (tap tap tap).
thanks again!!!
– Rebecca*
Im starting to see some progress now because Im starting to have these “did I just do that?” situations which is pretty amazing.
– Mattias*
“Also, I have been plodding along, but have made some great improvements so far with my social anxiety, thanks to your system. I still definitely have some work to do with tapping on specific SEEs, and sometimes the list seems endless, but because I have been feeling better I am committed to continuing.”
– Lauren*
Juswanna thank u cuz this was on ur web that I first got in touch with this magic tool that is EFT. I am really getting better.Practically no anticipation.
I sat for an important exam last week and I was concentrated and calm.I go everywhere tomorrow I ll go to the dentist’s.
Thank u! OH,happy new year!:)
– Randy R*
Hi
I just wanted to say thank you very much for the videos, etc, they are really helpful. I feel like I’m really starting to change for the first time in years.
I have seen an EFT practitioner here in England which has helped a bit but in all honesty I found your videos more useful as they go to the root of the problem.
thanks again
– Charlotte*
Thanks, Sebastiaan. Yes, I’ve been using the bundling baggate technique lately (I used it 4 times already, for dealing with: a specific highschool classmate’s bullying, past bullying in general, women’s rejection, and childhood baggage) and I feel much better and peaceful about all those things, and therefore my feeling of overwhelm has diminished a lot.
I’m starting to feel some generalization effect already (prior to the bundling baggage, I’d done the clearing a S.E.E technique for 4 other different SEEs).
So, in summary, I think this is going very well.
Cheers!
– Bruno*
Hi there dear Sebastian!
Congratulations on an absolutely awesome, very easy to follow Programme!
– Viv*
Hi Sebastian,
I wanted to let you know that i purchased the SCS program and is absolutely
amazing.
– X
Thank you so much Sebastiann. You program has been a God send to me.
– Michael*
Hi Sebastiaan,
Your program has helped me immensely. Thank you! I have been doing the program for the past few months and have been spending a great deal of time with the “Bundles”….I have created bundles for the my most challenging areas of my life and have been tapping away on a daily basis. I keep adding to the list of thoughts, feelings, ect I wish to confront.
One particular video that I keep redoing because of it’s impact is the “Blocks to Social Confidence” video.
I have been tapping away at long held limiting beliefs that grew out of years of verbal and psychological abuse.
Thanks again for your great work. So appreciative that you choose to pursue this path to help so many find a way out.
– X*
well…i bought your product and i have to say that after working on some things i felt more liberated and my body langauge changed .
i felt more comftable at conversing with people and thing started to shift for me and my thoughts began to change and icouldnt believe how such a simple(at first glance it looks like mambo jambo stuff) excersice be so powerfull and so liberating and i started to see that this a tool i can use to change my thoughts quicly and effectevly hence change my life.
I started at that point to understand and not just intelectually but feel that my beliefs are the filter that through them i see the world and i attract in the physical world what thoughts i have inside the “box”.
– S. Israel*
Hi!
Well yesterday something amazing happened….i was actually able to release all Feelings of guilt, even the one from my past life with the Troubleshooting Video!
I didn’t think this was possible without knowing the specific reason, but it was, and thats all that matters…i felt so light and good about myself! Awesome!
– X*
Hey Sebastian,
All the new updates to the program are great especially all the new resistance stuff:) I’ve even been to a couple parties now too:)
– John*
Thank you for your excellent work and your contribution to help those that suffer from this life-limitingcondiiton.
– X*
Thank you Sebastian. I really like your video on Overcoming deeply rooted beliefs. I use it on everything I find that I believe that I don’t like:)
– X*
So far I am really liking the program I bought.
You offer a lot of tapping sequences for the resistance. I am going through them and feel a subtle shift in awareness of how SAD has impacted my life in ways I never realized. Amazing. I hope to continue every day. It is quite tiring after 3 tapping sequences…but I love that you have so many tap alongs! Really great! I am a ‘tough case” 🙂 is great… I could have tapped all day on that one.
Oh and the test was eye opening. I had NO idea I was sooo social anxious…but as I learn more… I am realizing how pervasive it is. And how not wanting to go to a party or even visit my family might not be anmeaness or rudeness on my part or disconnection (selfish) — it might be simply that I am scared… and not even realize the fear in it all.
– X*
Sebastiaan,
Thank you for putting the course together and being willing to “teach a man to fish.” You’ve given a huge gift here. I think there is possibly other clever therapists out there with this info or parts of it, but that’s only going to be useful to the few clients they have the time to see.
The structure you’ve put together will touch a lot of people I think.
– Ryan*
Hi Sebastiaan,
I am working still working on acceptance and I made some progress on it.
My meeting on last Sat was great in some situation I was a bit anxious but
I believe that I improved a lot 🙂
Thanks,
– Laith*
By the way, I think your presentation and explanations are not only crystal clear, they are brilliant! They should be used to train psychologists who don’t understand SAD at all. Many thanks for your help
– X*
I really think this system you have created is brilliant. Thanks for all your help!!!!!!
– Meli*
It is going well because I have definitely noticed some improvements! Awesomeness!!
– X*
When going through the new versions of the clearing SEEs pdfs that you sent me, I liked the fact that you talked about how the event can be something that someone else may not think is emotionally traumatic but that it can still have been meaningful and hard for you, especially as a child.
I think that some of what I’ve been hung up on is that I feel like my experiences have not been that bad compared to some other folk’s experiences, and so then I feel a little embarrassed that have an anxiety disorder that has been triggered by these events and feelings.
I realize that it plays into the vicious cycle when I feel ashamed that I feel ashamed about certain experiences in my life, so hopefully I can get on to the path of greater acceptance of my own feelings. Sorry- kind of rambling…
– X*
Much appreciated my man. Great to see someone so honest online not scamming people. Im feeling the benefits of EFT already after a few days.
I think more people should know how effective it is to deal with S.E.E’s and resistance etc. when trying to eliminate their SAD.
Thanks again,
– Colm.*
I’ve spent most of my teens and twenties looking for *the* social anxiety cure, if such a thing actually existed. After a 10+ year search (& plenty of snake oil salesmen), I stumbled over the psychological equivalent of the holy grail: EFT &Sebastiaan’s EFT-based Social Confidence System. I’ve made more headway in a few months using the SCS than the previous 10+ years of talk therapy, cog-behavioral therapy, hypnosis & affirmations combined. Seriously. This s–t works.
Thanks again, Sebastiaan!
– X*
I think your program is great! I have felt so calm in a few social situations since starting, it’s something I never remember ever feeling ever in my life, it was awesome!
– Rob B*
It is great to have found your scs, I find it a very practical approach to release negative emotions.
– Vivek*
the social confidence system you developed is amazing! Of course I have to put alot of effort into it, but nothing no other book/material had me wanting to believe or persevere asmuch as what you have developed.
– X*
I have just this minute purchased your program. I have only “skim read” it to get an overall view of content, and I just had to tell you that I am really excited!
I say this because I have never seen such a comprehensive coverage of SAD and even by a quick overview I can see that you have covered many many aspects that I can relate to. What excites me is that you seem to be the only person I have come across who has recognised in detail the multi-layered nature of SAD.
This in itself gives me great hope. I say this after about 37 years of SAD, and trying many things including NLP and hypnotherapy which I really believed were the magic cures, but proved not to be. Some things I have tried worked to a degree but I am far from cured.
Your course has given me something to work on. I know it is very early days yet, but I am already inspired! I have not tried EFT before, though have read about it.
– X*
Hi Sebastian
I have been tapping like mad (lol) – beginning to feel different now. Hope you don’t mind me saying that I do think with some of your later tap along videos I find the silences not quite long enough and I have to rush through the words before you start speaking again.
Never the less this is a great course, it really does cover everything and is giving me a complete work out on SAD.
Many thanks,
– Peter*
On a happy note, I went to a BBQ for my graduate program today and felt very calm throughout it, so that’s a big change. I’ve had those calm feelings before at social events but not so much lately, so I think that is a good sign, and hopefully it lasts.
I had class on Tuesday and I was still pretty nervous and anxious during those, though, so obviously there is still work to be done, but I think I’m headed in the right direction. Thanks so much for all your help!
– X*
Good news !! Seems like your session + redoing the “bundling rest of social anxiety” gave a great, great boost yesterday .. I did the bundle last night putting more emotion into it, visualizing a bit more like if that truly is a reality (room scene with the pile of “anxiety”) .. for the first time in long, long time I managed eye contact even with a stranger.. the shame feeling seems to have disappear !!
– Jonas*
By the way, the program so far has helped me immensely. I am getting more comfortable with myself and social situations every day.
Regards,
– Andrew*
Thanks for the reply sebastiaan!!! I want you to know that your videos almost eliminated all of my social anxiety….I’ve been so much happier!!! So thank you and keep doing what your doing…
– X*
As someone who has been suffering in silence with Social Anxiety for a good 15 years, getting progressively worse the older I get, I was getting to the point it was affecting me on a daily basis and living in fear everyday of what was going to happen was extremely frustrating and really getting me down and I felt so frustrated and angry as it was holding me back from all the things I wanted to achieve in my life and being the real me.
After trying a few self help things on the internet that were a complete waste of money I was beginning to accept that this might be the way my life is always going to be, as I couldn’t afford to go and see a hypnotherapist/EFT practitioner.
Although I had heard how powerful EFT could be if you knew what you were doing. Then luckily for me I stumbled across Sebastiaan who I really can’t thank enough for creating such an amazing self help program.
When I started using the program about a month and half ago I was a little skeptical and I think I underestimated the power of these EFT techniques he guides you through. But I kept an open mind as I wanted nothing more than to find a cure for this.
After literally just a couple of sessions I truly felt a release inside me somehow, I can’t quite explain it. This of course did not solve my social anxiety by any means, but did release something…
… and feeling this power of these exercises really gave me the motivation and positivity that finally after all the searching I may have really found something that I can use myself and can really help me overcome this anxiety once and for all!
I really had no idea what to expect or how it was going to work, but Sebastiaan has made the program so step by step and easy to follow, you really can’t go wrong. All you need to do is read the information and follow along with the video’s and audio’s.
I will say for this to work you do have to be persistent, your anxiety is not going to disappear in a couple of days.. It’s much more complex than you think, there are a lot of layers you need to go through and you do really need to dedicate yourself to clear all of your social anxiety.
But as you work through it you will experience changes and shifts and gradually the triggers of your SA will get less and less and this really does give you the motivation to keep going.
I finished using the program only yesterday after 30 days testing and I can honestly say I feel my social anxiety has really improved to 95% maybe even completely…
I can’t tell you that for sure yet as I have only just finished the program and I haven’t been in a situation to trigger my anxiety yet, but what I know for a fact is that while working through the program my trigger situations were getting less and less and my confidence to speak out was rising and now when I think about certain situations that would normally make me anxious I can’t make myself feel anxious.
That really is an amazing life changing feeling, I feel like a different person. Thank you again Sebastiaan for creating such an easy to use self help program that really can change the lives of anyone suffering from Social Anxiety no matter how difficult your case may be.
And if you do have any questions Sebastiaan is always there to support and help you. 🙂
I would recommend this program to anyone without a doubt, the content and life changing value you will receive is priceless! You will be glad you gave it a go, I know I am! 🙂
Thanks,
– Joanne*
Hello Sebastiaan, Thank you so much for this new video and the exercise, for me it was really helpful.
There is still some anxiety in my solar plexus and the limiting belief that says “you are not good enough” (but the voice is very soft now), but I mostly feel so much more energized, confident, peaceful and optimistic after this session.
You know I looked in the mirror and was just looking at me, and could see that I looked different and I smiled myself, and really enjoying it!
Thanks again… I’m really grateful
– Tobi*
I’ve spent most of my teens and twenties looking for *the* social anxiety cure, if such a thing actually existed. After a 10+ year search (& plenty of snake oil salesmen), I stumbled over the psychological equivalent of the holy grail: EFT & Sebastiaan’s EFT-based Social Confidence System.
I’ve made more headway in a few months using the SCS than the previous 10+ years of talk therapy, cog-behavioral therapy, hypnosis & affirmations combined. Seriously. This s–t works. Thanks again, Sebastiaan!
– X*
When I started the program I was highly motivated and dedicated to doing the exercises every day. The exercises were all clear and reasonably easy to follow, although it could be time consuming at times but the time spent working on the exercises was worth it.
When I first started, I was experiencing social anxiety, especially at work and when catching up with old friends. Now I feel more confident that I can hold a job, and I actually find time to enjoy catching up with old friends and see how they’re doing.
I’m much more comfortable at stores and crowded places now, and I don’t have much anticipatory anxiety as I used to. I also enjoy going to church now and spending time with my family.
You can expect to spend an hour a day, every day, and expect to dig up all of your old pain, limiting beliefs, and anxious feelings. However, digging up all of the old feelings isn’t painful, you only dig it up for a couple of minutes before clearing it out and expecting some more peace.
EFT seems to be very unconventional, however I found it to be much more effective than CBT, traditional therapy, and even hypnosis and NLP. EFT seems to work well for clearing social anxiety.
You should buy the program if you are dedicated, open minded, and optimistic because putting the time in will reap the benefits as promised. But it does take time and dedication. I believe I have probably solved 80% of my social anxiety so far, although I still experience social anxiety at work and at some big parties.
I still have some anxiety when meeting new people, but that is normal to an extent. I feel more optimistic about my future, and I believe that if I continue working on this then I will be able to get rid of the social anxiety that I still feel at work and at big parties.
I also look forward to going to parties now, as well as going on dates and meeting new people.
Thank you and all the best!
– Jon*
In general, I am so impressed with this system and I’m so glad I found one of your videos on YouTube which led me to your website, and hopefully one day I will be socially confident. I cannot even imagine what that would feel like.
Thank you so much for the work that you do. I’m sure everyone you have helped cannot express in words how grateful they are. Because that is how I feel.
With love,
– D.
After doing the work on guilt in your course, I was able to discuss something from my past today for the first time today without the awful guilt feelings which usually take me over when I think or talk about it.
It was such a relief and I never thought it would be possible. Thank you so so so much!
All the best
– Susan*
Hei Sebastiaan,
Just wanted to drop some words saying the programme is working great: as os now I’ve reached the part of accepting myself no matter what (point 7), and separating myself from SA and not identifying with it.
I’ve felt good results in terms of not worrying about being socially anxious, which now I can see accounts for maybe 60% of the anguish/anxiety.. the remaining 40% is just happening and I’m more able to just let it be. the results till now have been very good !!
So thanks so much !!
– X*
Hi Sebastiaan,
Thanks for this amazing course. I have often wondered if EFT could help with my social anxiety, but never really knew how to go about it. My question. I have been following along with your course and am now going through the ‘Forgive Everyone’ section.
At first I had a lot of anger and resentment come up during this part. I have tapped away at a number of experiences that I feel contributed to my social anxiety, and I admit a lot more came up as I did it.
The thing is, now when I think about forgiving everyone who contributed I don’t really feel anything much at all. Is this what I’m supposed to feel to move on?
I’m 44 years of age. And I think I had gotten so used to feeling bad and feeling resentful, that to feel nothing feels, well, kind of weird!
Even people I work with now, who have annoyed me but obviously haven’t really contributed to my social anxiety, they can just make it flair up.
My bad feelings to them have lessened so much that I feel a bit of empathy with them like I’m starting to understand where they are coming from.
I’m excited because I really feel changes already. I know I still have a long way to go but I feel lighter and am even starting to inertact with people at work who I never could talk with much before. And this is without really trying and pushing myself to.
I guess one of the reasons I wasn’t sure if I was ready to move on was the fact that my feelings lessened so much in just a couple of days. It just seems too quick!
Even now I have a bit of lingering doubt that it could be so quick and easy, but encouraged at the same time that I will let a lot of feelings go over the next few weeks, and months.
Yes, it’s fine to use me as a testimonial with my first name. Hopefully I’ll have many more for you! 🙂
All the best,
– Sean*
First off I’d like to just say you’ve done an amazing job here. I bought your system two days ago and I’ve noticed a difference already.
After doing the exercises my head feels so clear. For a long time I had all this anger and frustration and psychologists couldn’t help me get rid of it. Your system dropped it down from an 10 to a 0 in a day.
A truly thankful customer,
– Joshua S.*
* Individual results may vary
Hi again Sebastiaan, I purchased your social confidence system and I´m already on day 2. I must say this system is great, I have completely accepted myself and have gotten only positive beliefs (to a 10/10).
After this session I just feel a rush of positive energy with thoughts that this WILL work for me! ?
– X*