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To create a positive self image you first need to know what a self image is and how it affects your social anxiety. And, you also have to figure out what your current self image looks like.
To do so, go here: How A Negative Self Image Influences Your Social Anxiety
Years back I found out that if my internal picture of myself wouldn’t change, my social anxiety would not change either. I started to work on creating a more positive self image. One of a socially confident person.
After a few weeks of changing my internal picture I noticed that my anxiety level had dropped significantly. Not only that, I felt more confident and could slowly but surely start to look myself in the eye when looking in a mirror. A thing that I had not been able to do so for a long timefv
In this article I explain to you the process to creating a positive self image. After this I provide 8 practical steps to start changing your internal picture immediately.
Once you have developed a truly positive self-image, you project this out to other people.
They pick it up and start to treat you differently. People behave as you see yourself. So when you see yourself as socially confident, people start to treat you in such a way.
“The self-image is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior.”
And also, just having an internal picture of a socially confident you will start to lead you to being socially confident.
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Here’s how it works:
There are a lot of ways to develop a positive self image. I have listed them in order.
What do I not like about myself?
The answers to this question are your negative beliefs you have about yourself.
Once you have found these, you can change them by using the following process:
“The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image.”
Since you want to develop a positive self image, start recalling as many successes as you can remember. Specifically try to recall situations where you were socially confident. Go as far back in your life as you have to. The tiniest bit of evidence of you being socially confident will help.
But also think back over your whole life and recall non-socially related successes. You want to feel good about yourself in general so remember as many things as you can. Compliments you got, things you achieved, people that liked you, things you did well etc.
Make a journal and keep adding things. And read over your list every week.
Society gives us all these imprints about how we should live up to society’s expectations. Earn a lot, look good, be popular. And because of this social conditioning we receive from the media, we compare our current level of “earn a lot, look good, be popular” to other people.
This is a sad way to live your life. Instead choose your own path in life, your own personality. And follow your own path, only comparing yourself to…
You got it, just to yourself.
Creating a healthy self image can seem like a lot of work. And, in the beginning it kind of is. You need to completely change that internal picture you have of yourself.
Since you have been dragging that negative self image with you for so long, you need some persistence and hard work to change it.
But, once you change it, the results will amaze you. Put in the work, you’re worth it.
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