16. Amazing: Why stopping porn can reduce your social anxiety

In this episode…

In this fascinating interview you learn the science behind how internet porn addiction could be the CAUSE of your social anxiety.

Gary shares how hundreds of guys who stopped porn reported their social anxiety released. And how non-anxious people’s desire to socialise increased, their confidence increased, they became more social.

And, how some with diagnosed social anxiety and medication saw improvement or full remission of their condition by stopping porn. 

This goes into the science behind it.

And he also shares:

• What to do to increase your will power and decrease your social anxiety within 8 weeks.
• Why socialising or small talk can become boring (and how this can be reversed)
• Why you could be having trouble being disciplined
• What sexual dysfunctions out there (erectile disfunction, unable to ejaculate, bizarre fetishes, etc) are the result of porn and how these can be reversed.

Gary’s bio:

Gary Wilson is an author and researcher on Pornography and it’s addiction.

Quoting Gary:

“Many studies have pointed to the dopamine system being important in socialising. Studies on social anxiety have found that maybe less dopamine is being produced or people with social anxiety have less dopamine receptors. There are also experiments on animals and even humans where they’ll purposely decrease dopamine and you’ll see a rise in anxiety and a rise in avoiding other animals or social contact. So it’s clear that the dopamine system is very important cause the dopamine system is the system that is motivating you to go out and seek rewards. The primary rewards for all social animals are of course food and water, but also sex and of course socialising. Maybe addiction-related brain changes are reversed when people give up porn and then they seek out normal rewards such as socialising.”

Gary’s website:

Gary’s website is here (http://yourbrainonporn.com/)

Other resources mentioned

Watch Philip Zimbardo’s Tedtalk “The demise of guys?” hereNoFapReddit’s website is here.

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