Are you worried about what other people think about you?
Do you feel ashamed when people hear your conversation with your friend?
Then this is for you.
In this video, I will be sharing a comment David made under The Masterclass Series.
I will share the difference between caring about what other people think of you and worrying about it.
Hey, this is Seb from social-anxiety-solutions.com.
I’m going to keep it very short because we are super busy.
We just closed The Social Confidence Club registration, and it is popping, so I’m going to keep it really short.
But I still wanted to share something with you.
So I asked one of our team members to scroll through the comments section underneath The Masterclass series videos; that’s a word – sure. And to scout for insights that people reported, and I picked one of them. And it goes like this:
By David: “The biggest insight I got from this video is that there’s a difference between caring about what other people think about you and worrying about it. For me, these two concepts have always blended into each other. So I’m happy to hear someone create a sharp distinction between them.”
Yes, there’s a big difference between that.
I’m not worried about what people think of me. So when I’m sitting in a cafe, and I’m having a conversation with my friend, I’m not thinking about what other people do; I’m not worried about what other people are thinking about the conversation that I’m having with my friend.
However, if I were to have a (let’s just say) conversation that isn’t really appropriate to a child’s ears, then I do care enough not to be an asshole and start talking about that while someone is sitting with her kid next to me.
See? So I care, but I’m not worried about it. That’s a big difference.
So you can get to that place by addressing the worry; releasing the worry.
Caring about other people – that’s natural, that’s normal, that’s part of your system.
Worrying? That’s a pattern that started that somewhere stuck in your brain, and you can release that.
Alright, that’s it. I hope this insight is helpful to you and want to connect with you very soon.
And I wish you a great week. Bye for now.
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Sebastiaan van der Schrier is a Social Confidence Coach and ex social anxiety sufferer. He helps socially anxious people become confident using a unique and painless approach. He is the host of the Social Anxiety Solutions podcast show and runs the first ever online Social Confidence Community.