We open once per year so we can fully focus on the members inside.
If you’d like to continue working on your social anxiety now,
Fast Social Anxiety Relief is available as a self-paced option.
It allows you to work gently, on your own schedule.
If you’ve lived with social anxiety for a long time, you’ve probably tried to fix it before.
Maybe therapy.
Maybe exposure.
Maybe forcing yourself to “just do it.”
Maybe tapping or other approaches that helped a little but didn’t last.
The Social Confidence Club exists for people who are done blaming themselves and want an approach that works with the nervous system instead of against it.
This page explains what the Club is so you can see if it’s something that might help you.
Below, you’ll find details about:
The Social Confidence Club is a structured environment designed to help your nervous system change how it responds to social situations.
Instead of pushing yourself into discomfort and hoping you “get used to it,”
the focus here is on repeated experiences of safety.
Over time, those experiences change how you react to social situations.
The Club works differently from:
It’s designed as an ongoing environment, not a one-time fix, because your system needs time and repetition to learn that social situations can be safe.
Inside the Club you’re not trying to fix yourself, because you’re not broken. You’re gradually removing what gets in the way of feeling safe and at ease socially.
A typical week looks like this:
There is a weekly rhythm if you want it, but nothing here needs to be done perfectly for it to help.
If you choose to follow the rhythm, it looks like this:
Some people join live every week.
Others mostly use the replays.
Both approaches are completely fine.
This is not a full-time commitment.
It’s designed to fit alongside work, relationships, and real life.
If a week gets busy and you miss something, nothing breaks.
You simply pick it up again when it fits.
You never have to speak, share, or be visible for this to work.
Inside the Social Confidence Club, people participate in different ways, and all of them are valid.
Many members:
Others choose to be more interactive over time.
There is no expectation to move toward any particular level of participation.
Each week, there is a live coaching session.
Sometimes one person volunteers to be coached while others tap along.
Other times, the work is done with the group as a whole.
If you attend live:
Many members never attend live at all and only use the replays.
When someone else is being coached, you can tap along on your own version of the same issue. People often feel relief just from doing that.
This is sometimes called “borrowing benefits.”
You get the benefit without being in the spotlight.
For most people, this is how change happens: quietly and without pressure.
The community exists to reduce isolation, not to create performance.
You choose how present you want to be:
There is no requirement to post, introduce yourself, or explain your story.
What matters is that you’re no longer doing this alone.
Over time, that sense of safety and understanding becomes familiar and naturally carries into real life.
People never experience one big moment where social anxiety disappears.
What tends to happen instead is a series of smaller shifts that build over time.
Early on, many people notice things like:
These shifts can feel subtle at first, but they add up over time.
As this work continues, many people begin to notice:
Over time, social situations can start to feel more neutral, and for some people, genuinely enjoyable.
How long this takes is different for everyone.
What matters isn’t speed, but staying in a steady environment where safety is reinforced without pressure.
Members usually describe their progress as gradual rather than dramatic.
Many first notice they beat themselves up less when anxiety shows up, and feel more capable of responding to it rather than getting pulled into a spiral. Over time, social anxiety tends to feel less intense, triggers settle more quickly, and episodes pass faster instead of lingering for hours or days.
These are a few examples of what people have shared about their experience inside the Social Confidence Club.
“Basically all of my anticipatory anxiety is gone until very close to an event that I know will likely be triggering.
It just means I spend a lot less time and energy thinking about what’s coming.
There are still some things that trigger me pretty intensely, and I know I still have work to do. But I also know I have a toolset I can use for that, and that there is a solution.”
– Claudia
“There are still aspects I haven’t worked through yet that can trigger me, and I still get a response sometimes.
But the response is much smaller than it was at the start, and it sticks around for way less time.
I can almost feel it, and even as I’m feeling it, it’s already on its way out in a lot of cases.”
– Graham
“Sometimes I don’t even worry beforehand anymore, and if I do, it might just be for a few minutes.
Before, it was for days, sometimes even weeks, worrying about an event that was coming up. And when I was there, I’d stay anxious the whole time, forcing myself to be there for hours.
Now I usually go in, and within a few minutes I can calm down. It feels weird to say that, because it’s more like I let it happen instead of trying to push it away. When I let it be there, it resolves. When I tried to push it down and hide it, it never went away.
And after the event, instead of replaying everything for days, losing sleep, and thinking it was a bad experience, I usually feel glad I went. It often feels like something positive came out of it.”
– Deb
The blushing has gone away almost completely. Sometimes I still feel some heat in my face, but I don’t try to avoid it anymore. It’s not a big thing now. Everybody blushes sometimes. That’s natural. It feels more human. And overall, it’s mostly gone.”
– Tapani
These are short, edited moments from members, taken from their in-depth interviews, about their experience over time.
Enrollment for the Social Confidence Club is currently closed.
The Club opens once per year, and the next enrollment will open in February.
When enrollment opens, you’ll be able to review:
If you’d like, you can be notified when enrollment opens.
You’ll also receive access to free training that explains the approach in more depth and helps you understand how the Club works.
If you’re already on my email list, this just makes sure you get the Social Confidence Club updates.
No.
The Social Confidence Club is a coaching-based program, not therapy, and it doesn’t replace medical or psychological treatment. The focus is on working with the nervous system using tapping and related techniques to reduce social anxiety and build more ease over time.
No.
You can keep your camera off, never speak, and simply tap along or watch replays. Many members participate fully without ever being visible or sharing in a live session.
Nothing breaks.
All live sessions are recorded, and you can return to the material whenever it fits. This is designed to work alongside real life, not require perfect consistency.
There’s no fixed timeline.
Some people stay for months, others for years. Members stay as long as it feels useful.
No. The Social Confidence Club is specifically designed for social anxiety.
If depression, OCD, or another condition is your primary issue, this is not the right program for you. Those require a different type of support than what the Club offers.
If social anxiety is the main block in your life, then this approach may be a good fit.
No.
Some people join after doing a challenge, others arrive without any prior experience. Everything you need to participate is explained inside the Club.