Unlock Social Ease
Overcome Social Anxiety
Without Forcing Yourself to Face Your Fears
Be guided 1-on-1 by someone who’s lived it, beat it, and helped hundreds do the same.
Using the best of psychology and EFT to create fast relief and lifelong social ease.
Meet Your Coach - Sebastiaan
Former social anxiety disorder sufferer, social confidence coach since 2009
Hey, it’s Seb. Thanks for being here.
I’ve put this in-depth page together to help you decide whether my
1-on-1 support is right for you.
Along the way, you’ll find powerful video testimonials – real stories from people who once felt stuck and now experience social ease in ways they never thought possible.
I encourage you to read the full page. What I offer is different from anything you’ve likely tried before. And seeing how others have transformed might help you picture your life without social anxiety, and what else might open up for you too.
That said, if you’re already convinced or just curious and want to see if we’re a good fit, here’s a…
Quick Overview
(So You Know What This Is, Right Away)
Who this is for
You’re dealing with social anxiety. Maybe it shows up around friends, at work, in dating, or just in everyday interactions. You feel very limited. It consumes your thinking… You’ve probably tried therapy, CBT… Maybe exposures, hypnosis, NLP. Or even tapping with a practitioner. But nothing really changed. Now you’re seeking a solution to finally release your long standing social anxiety and create lasting social confidence.
What you’ll get
- Weekly / bi-weekly private sessions (60–120 min), over 3 to 6 months
- Personalized tapping tools, healing techniques, and in-between-session support
- Deep work using EFT and energy psychology (like TAT, Psych-K, MAP, etc.)
- Bonus access to the Social Confidence Club – for extra support and momentum
What starts to change
- You stop overthinking, and start feeling comfortable being yourself
- You speak freely without anxiety, self-monitoring, or fear of judgment
- You connect more deeply. Set boundaries more easily.
- You feel lighter. Calmer. More at home in your own skin.
- Your growing confidence makes it easier to create the life you want, or finally enjoy the one you already have.
What Happens Next
If this resonates and you’re curious to explore working together, you can apply for a brief, private intro chat. It’s not a coaching session or a sales call. Just a real conversation to see if we’re a good fit.
Does this sound familiar?
You dread social situations. Not because you don’t like people, but because your anxiety takes over. As soon as you’re around certain people…
- Your heart starts racing…
- You get all rigid and serious
- You overthink what to say…
- You feel they’re judging you…
- You worry that they can see your anxiety…
Maybe you hide it well. But inside, it’s exhausting. The constant overanalyzing. The shame. The pretending…
… will it ever stop?
Socialising is just awkward.
Afterwards, you beat yourself up for how you came across. And you worry about the next social situation.
You avoid situations when you can, or grit your teeth and push through when you can’t. This is an all-consuming problem in your life that just won’t seem to shift.
You’ve probably tried fighting the anxiety with will power. Forcing yourself to talk. Changing your thoughts. Doing awkward exposure exercises. Maybe you’ve tried hypnosis, NLP, therapy, or other tools that either
- didn’t work
- didn’t last
- made things worse.
If so, maybe deep down, a part of you now wonders
“maybe this is just who I am, maybe I’m broken, or I must be a real tough case…”
Logically you know you’ve got so much more potential. But the anxiety is preventing you from showing up as the real you.
Is this how your life is going to be forever?
NO
It actually doesn’t have to remain this way.
Social anxiety isn’t who you are, it’s a protective pattern your system learned a long time ago. And what if the right approach could finally free you… for good?
Why I Can Help You?
I know how desperate and hopeless things can feel, because I suffered from severe social anxiety disorder for well over a decade.
I felt inferior to everyone.
Blushed at the drop of a hat.
And carried deep shame about who I was.
It took tremendous effort just to make the outside world believe I was fine. But deep down, I felt like there was something seriously wrong with me. Social anxiety ruled my life, and nothing I tried made it go away.
- Self-help and mindset work gave me some relief, but only in my room.
- Hypnosis helped a bit, but it didn’t last.
- NLP did nothing.
- Changing my thoughts made me more optimistic… but I stayed just as anxious.
Even when I pushed myself to “face my fears” -which was terrifying and humiliating- it only gave me temporary relief.
I was terrified this was just how my life was going to be.
Things only began to change when I discovered EFT tapping and got help from brilliant therapists. As I worked through the subconscious patterns underneath my anxiety, I slowly started to feel less anxious.
And the more at ease I felt being me, the less powerful my social anxiety became.
I’ve now been completely free from social anxiety for years. And since 2009, I’ve been helping others do the same. Below you can see detailed video interviews with clients who also beat their social anxiety and unlocked a level of social ease they never dreamed possible.
Over the past 15+ years, I’ve coached hundreds of socially anxious clients 1-on-1, logged over 7,000 hours of private sessions, and led more than 600 hours of group coaching.
Along the way, I developed ‘The ART Approach’: A method that combines the best of psychology with the emerging field of Energy Psychology, including EFT tapping.
This approach helps you overcome social anxiety much faster, and with far less stress.
Keep reading to see what might be possible for you.
This isn’t just coaching.
It’s a clear, gentle path to real social confidence, done mostly from the comfort of your own home.
- Overcame his own severe social anxiety disorder
- Has logged over 7,000 coaching hours helping hundreds overcome social anxiety
- Host of the “Social Anxiety Solutions” podcast with over 2.5 million downloads
- Created a YouTube channel with 3M+ views on social anxiety relief
- Leads the Social Confidence Club - a global online community helping people reach social ease
Here’s What To Expect During VIP Coaching
Gentle, Profound Breakthrough Coaching Sessions
I’ll meet you exactly where you’re at, and we take it from there. You don’t need to know what to say or what to work on. That’s my job: I’ll guide you every step of the way. If you’re nervous during the session (which is normal) I’ll help you calm down right away using tapping. Together, we’ll release your core social fears, dissolve anxiety triggers, and build real inner confidence. You’ll begin to let go of the shame, self-criticism, and fear that’s been weighing you down. Your self acceptance deepens session by session, and you’ll gradually start feeling at ease being yourself around others.
No Awkward Exposures - Lasting Transformation
This isn’t the “feel the fear and do it anyway” approach. Instead, we connect to the fears from the safety of your home - and then we tap to release them at the root. Once the fear is gone, you’ll naturally feel different in real situations. This “reality testing” gives your system evidence that you’re safe now, and helps rewire the old programming. Fear gets replaced with a new, automatic sense of: “I’m safe. I can handle this.”
Gentle, Rapid Transformation
You’ll experience relief during our very first session. For some, this already translates to real-world changes. For others, it takes a few more sessions. Either way, we’ll work directly with your subconscious patterns, so you stop sabotaging your progress and finally see real, lasting change. You’ll also get simple tap-along audios to help you calm anxiety between sessions. Around 95% of my clients start experiencing real-life changes within just 3–6 sessions.
Just Follow My Lead - It’s Easy
I’ll explain where you’re at, where we’re going, and why. Then we’ll make the transformation together. Session by session you’ll feel calmer, more at ease, less anxious. Yes, you’ll briefly tune into uncomfortable emotions, but it’s gentle, fast, and deeply healing. While we’ll talk, this isn’t talk therapy. It’s targeted, effective, and surprisingly light to go through. I’ll guide you every step of the way through the proven 5-stage journey to social confidence.
Cutting-Edge Anxiety Relief Tailored To Your Unique Situation
Our sessions will provide me with the insights I need to give you the tapping audios, psychological hacks, or targeted tools you need to speed up your progress in between sessions. You’ll have personalised support tools available anytime, right from your phone.
What Can Happen for You on This Journey
Most clients feel a noticeable shift during the very first session. Here’s what clients commonly experience:
- A sudden release of fear, anxiety, or dread. You feel the shifts in real time
- Limiting beliefs lose their grip
- A radical shift in perspective brings new hope
- You Feel calmer, lighter, and more yourself
- You drop into the present moment, grounded and safe
- A deep sense of empowerment starts to grow
These shifts during a session add up and compound over time. They build on each other and lead to noticeable transformation in your day to day life experience.
As your nervous system starts feeling safer, these changes begin showing up in real life.
Your social anxiety starts to fade in 3 key ways:
Intensity: How strong the anxiety feels decreases
(From an 8 to a 4 ... then a 2 ... Then just a whisper.)
Duration: How long it lasts gets shorter
(Instead of lingering all evening, it fades in an hour… then 30 minutes… then in moments.)
Frequency: How often you feel triggered goes down
(If it happens 10 times a week now, soon it’s 7. Then 3. Then once in a while. Until it’s just gone.)
And while everyone’s journey is unique, this is the kind of steady, lasting change I consistently see with committed clients.
And, because social anxiety is often a symptom of deeper patterns, like:
- past trauma
- low self-esteem
- perfectionism
- conditional self-acceptance
… the benefits of this work go far beyond reducing anxiety.
“This isn’t just about feeling less anxious. It’s about releasing it for good. And reclaiming who you were always meant to be.”
A Proven Path
Change begins fast, but complete freedom doesn’t happen overnight. That’s why I use a structured framework I’ve developed over 15+ years, as a result of my own journey, and coaching hundreds of socially anxious clients. It’s called the 5 Stages to Social Confidence.
As you move through this journey, you’ll pass through 21 emotional relief milestones that mark your progress.
As these inner shifts settle, your outer life starts to change. Often in ways that surprise you.
Former clients have started dating, spoke up at work, launched businesses, reconnected with people they’d pushed away, or started traveling the world.
When social anxiety stops being a problem in your life, many areas of your life begin to open up. Opportunities present themselves. And you’re no longer held back from creating the life you desire.
When Social Anxiety Begins to Fall Away
As you release these old patterns, you’ll begin to feel, think, and act in ways that used to feel impossible. At first, it’ll feel like glimpses. Moments where you’ll go:
“Did I just do that?”
“Wow, I normally feel very anxious there, but it simply wasn’t there”
“I really felt so relaxed and at ease there, I felt like ME”
This is when things start to shift in ways you can actually feel.
You speak more naturally. Say what you really think. And walk into rooms without second-guessing yourself. Basically, you stop holding back. Whether it’s asking for what you want, setting boundaries, or taking the lead…
… it stops feeling scary, and starts feeling natural. Like something you were always meant to do.
As your nervous system calms and your confidence rises, people start responding to you differently.
- As you value and respect yourself, you resonate that. People now lean in. They listen.
- You’re no longer overlooked or brushed off – you’re seen.
- You get more eye contact. More respect.
- People sense your presence, and they treat you like someone worth paying attention to.
And in time, this starts happening more. Over time, this becomes your new normal.
Below are some of the kinds of transformations that begin to unfold. When you read them, you might go “there’s no way this is possible for me”.
Just know that what’s written down comes from my personal experience, and from real clients reporting these changes. (You’ll hear some of them share this in the video testimonials on this page)
Of course, these changes don’t all happen at once. It’s gradual. Some take longer than others. But they begin to unfold as we peel away the fear and resistance that’s been holding you back.
And while it may sound “incredible” to an anxious brain, what I describe below is actually just feeling… normal. Natural. At ease.
This is your natural state when you feel safe to be yourself. Something billions of people experience every day, without even realizing how lucky they are… because it’s just normal to them.
Internal Shifts
You stop feeling like there’s something wrong with you. The inner criticism quiets. You begin to accept yourself, feel safer in your skin, and genuinely become OK with who you are.
You stop feeling judged, not good enough, or out of place around others.
That automatic sense of "I’m not enough" begins to lose its grip. You’ll stop comparing yourself to others and start feeling grounded in your own worth. Even in groups, or around people you once found intimidating, you feel safe to be yourself.
You stop beating yourself up.
No more endless replaying the tapes of what you should or shouldn’t have said or done. Instead, you quickly accept what happened, and if necessary you use the tools you’ve learned to turn the difficult situation into a healing opportunity. You bounce back quickly and keep your self esteem intact.
You stop hoping this will work, and start knowing it’s working.
Because you feel the difference. And the progress you experience is undeniable.
You feel confident being your true self.
The need to impress drops. There’s no more performance. No more mask needed. You feel safe and at ease sharing your authentic self with others.
You stop needing others’ approval to feel okay.
As your self-acceptance deepens, their opinions lose power. You still care, but their views no longer define you. You like, trust, and respect yourself. And you expect others to do the same, without needing them to. So even when someone doesn’t "get" you, it doesn’t shake you. You’re emotionally solid, and OK with being you.
These inner shifts are the foundation. And they’re not just internal – others feel them too.Because as you feel better, you naturally start showing up differently.
As a result, you’re no longer seen as nervous, hesitant, or “off.” Instead, people start seeing you as composed. Grounded. They trust your energy. You stop being the one fading into the background, and start becoming someone who naturally commands respect, someone who people want to connect with. And because you’ve made the inner changes, you feel at ease being noticed. And that feels great.
In-the-Moment Freedom
Strong anxiety triggers? They start happening less and less. At first, it’s more manageable. Then it happens less often. Then one day, it’s just not there. No anxiety. And eventually… you’ll feel naturally at ease. You’re present, grounded, and calm. Like you would be with someone you feel safe and accepted by.
You feel comfortable making eye contact, even when all eyes are on you.
We’ll neutralise your stuck guilt and shame, which makes it feel like you’ve got nothing to hide. You’re OK with being seen as you are. Now the fear of being watched or exposed dissolves. And you stay relaxed, even when all eyes are on you.
You stop fearing you’ll lose control, blush, or look anxious.
These reactions are deeply connected to trauma, and as we gently heal these with tapping and other energy psychology approaches, you’ll feel profound relief. You’ll stop bracing for the worst. You’ll develop an empowered perspective on emotional pain. And begin to trust that even if discomfort arises, you can handle it.
You feel calm and grounded in social situations that used to trigger you.
The first times anxiety isn’t there where it formerly was, you’ll be looking for it. And to your surprise, it simply won’t be there. Instead, there is a deep sense of
"I’m safe. I can handle this."
You speak naturally and confidently, without micromanaging every word.
No more rehearsing what to say. No more analyzing every single thing you say. You speak from the heart without this constant inner voice critiquing everything all the time.
You go from dreading social situations… to looking forward to them.
No more doom thinking. No more “what if…” spirals. No more forcing yourself through awkward conversations you want to escape. The tension lifts. Those thoughts disappear. And eventually… You’ll feel safe being you, which makes connection feel good, and enjoyable. You can just be you.
This is what life feels like when social safety becomes your new baseline.
Real-World Connection
Without fear, connection becomes effortless. It’s natural for us to connect. Through our work together, you’ll feel increasingly safe and confident doing so. And it’ll become something that feels good, even fulfilling.
You stop people-pleasing and start setting boundaries without guilt.
You’ve released the fear of someone getting upset with you. You no longer need everyone to like you, because you're OK with disapproval. And most importantly, you like and respect yourself.
You connect with people in a way that feels real, relaxed, and even fun.
The focus of our work is helping you feel safe socially. When that happens, anxiety fades. You feel calm and grounded inside, and others feel that too. Socializing becomes something you enjoy, not something you have to survive.
You feel confident around attractive people and authority figures.
Once the beliefs that put people on a pedestal dissolve, those situations lose their charge. You feel equal, grounded in your worth. Instead of seeking approval, you stay composed, real, and self-respecting.
You’ll feel safe being seen. Even in the moments that used to terrify you…
Whether it’s eye contact, group attention, or talking to someone you’re attracted to, you stay calm and connected to yourself. These moments no longer take you out of alignment.
You stop feeling so lonely, avoiding the people and moments that actually matter.
Connection becomes easier and more natural. You begin to seek it, because it feels good. This opens doors in love, career, friendship, and life.
You feel proud of who you’ve become, and excited about who you’re becoming.
As we heal the parts of you that once felt unacceptable, you stop re-living the pain of the past. You become congruent, whole. You feel calm, centered, and OK with all of you, ready to create the future you truly want.
You’re not chasing people’s attention anymore. You’ve become the kind of person others want to be around. Social ease becomes part of your identity, and people can feel it. They sense your comfort in your own skin, and that makes it feel good to be around you; and it naturally draws people to you.
This might sound way too good to be true. And obviously, these results don’t happen overnight. But they do happen. And the stories you’ll hear in the testimonial interviews below are proof.
These shifts are real, and while they may seem spectacular, they only seem that way because you’re used to experiencing anxiety in those situations. In reality, they’re nothing more than not getting triggered, staying in your natural state. This work isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about returning to your natural state. To what’s already in you, underneath the fear.
That’s exactly what we’ll do, step by step, session by session, until social ease becomes your new normal.
Why This Works When Nothing Else Did
You may have already tried therapy, mindset work, CBT, exposure, hypnosis, NLP, healing modalities… Perhaps you’ve even tapped with a practitioner. And you still feel stuck.
That might lead you to believe you’re a tough case.
But in reality, you stay stuck because:
- Many therapists try to rationalize, challenge, or out-reason your anxiety thoughts. And while that can bring temporary relief, deep down, you already know your fears are irrational. Social anxiety isn’t a logic problem. It’s emotional.
- Some help you understand social anxiety better, which can soothe. But it doesn’t resolve the trauma underneath – the part that makes your system feel unsafe socially.
- Most trauma-informed therapists aren’t trained in social anxiety disorder specifically. They treat it like general anxiety or past trauma, not the unique, layered issue it is.
- Many follow rigid protocols. They mean well, but just because something works for some people, some of the time, doesn’t mean it will work for you.
- Most methods only treat symptoms. Without resolving the deeper subconscious causes. That often leads to short-lived results, or no real change.
- Nearly all approaches skip over the subconscious entirely. And that’s where lasting transformation actually happens.
- Some tell you the only way forward is to “feel the fear and do it anyway.”
(it’s not. And that can actually make things worse.)
This approach is different. I combine the best of psychology with EFT tapping and energy psychology. Here’s why it works when others didn’t:
You’ll release your fears - not just understand them
You already know your fears are irrational. We don’t just help you understand why you fear rejection, we neutralise the emotional causes of your social fears. And release them for good.
This method is specifically created to resolve social anxiety
I’ve dedicated my life to resolve my own social anxiety, and helping others do the same. My ART approach is 100% focused to permanently release social anxiety.
We don’t just talk about your anxiety, we resolve what’s underneath it.
There is a reason for why you feel anxious socially, where someone else doesn’t: Your brain is perceiving threat. That’s not something you’re born with. And contrary to popular opinion, it’s not just caused by anxious thoughts. It’s the result of traumatic experiences and conditioning. In our work we’ll focus on the beliefs and patterns that make your system feel unsafe around others. And gently release them.
No rigid protocol. Just personalized, effective guidance.
I’m 100% present with you and guide based on 7000+ hours of helping clients, intuitively using what actually works for you.
We don’t just manage symptoms — we clear the cause.
You’ll stop putting out fires and start feeling free. We work at the root so you don’t have to cope anymore.
We work with the subconscious to create permanent change
The #1 reason people fail to get lasting relief from social anxiety is because of subconscious resistance to change. Our focus is on resolving this, so lasting transformation happens. And with tapping and energy psychology, we get there safely and effectively.
No scary exposures. Just deep shifts that change how you feel.
You won’t be pushed into fear. Instead, fear dissolves from within — and you naturally show up differently in the real world.
And it’s not just my own and my clients’ experience – the science backs this up.
CBT vs. EFT
Outcomes in 5,000 Anxiety Patients
CBT
60%
improved
EFT
90%
improved
15
sessions
needed
3
sessions
needed
51%
had complete relief
76%
had complete relief
Outcomes from a large clinical program involving 5,000 anxiety patients over 5.5 years found…
- 76% of EFT participants had complete relief (vs 51% with CBT)
- EFT took 3 sessions on average (vs 15 for CBT)
- One year later, 78% of EFT improvements held (vs 69% with CBT)
- Overall improvement: 90% with EFT vs 63% with CBT
EFT has demonstrated effectiveness in 125+ published studies, including dozens of randomized controlled trials. It is recognized by the APA (American Psychological Association) Division 12 (Society of Clinical Psychology) as evidence-based for anxiety, depression, and PTSD.
This is why I use EFT as the foundation of my coaching. It’s fast, safe, proven. And for me and my clients, it worked when nothing else did.
- This Coaching Is For You If…
- You’re tired of managing anxiety and want to actually feel safe, relaxed, and free
- You’ve tried therapy, mindset work, or exposure but nothing gave lasting relief
- You’re done pretending and just want to feel okay being yourself
- You’re willing to do the work, even if part of you is scared or skeptical
- You want a personalized, deeply supportive process, not a cookie-cutter method
- You want to work with someone who has actually overcome social anxiety himself.
- You know your anxiety isn’t who you are and you’re ready to let it go
- You want real, lasting change. Not just years of talking about the problem…
If you’re nodding along, this work can change your life. You don’t have to force yourself through fear anymore. You just need the right support to release what’s been keeping it in place.
- Coaching Is NOT For You If…
- You’re currently experiencing severe depression or suicidal thoughts.
- You have a history of sexual abuse and need trauma-specialized support.
- You’ve been diagnosed with DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder), bipolar, OCD, or other complex psychiatric conditions that require clinical treatment.
If any of this applies to you, please know that you still deserve help. I specialize in social anxiety specifically. In these cases, I recommend working with a licensed mental health professional who’s trained in trauma and clinical support.
What You’ll Get
The Structure & Support Behind Your Transformation
I only work with a handful of VIP clients at a time, usually 3 to 5 per 6-month cycle. That’s what makes this a deeply personalized journey, designed specifically for you and your unique experience of social anxiety. Everything we do is tailored to meet you where you are, and guide you step by step towards freedom from social anxiety.
Here’s what’s included:
Weekly or bi-weekly sessions (60 to 120 minutes)
(spaced over 3 to 6 months)
These powerful, in-depth sessions help you release what’s been keeping you stuck. And you’ll start feeling more at ease.
All sessions are online and scheduled around your availability. Clients eagerly look forward to these two hours as they bring so much relief and ease!
You don’t need to come prepared. I’ll guide you every step of the way. We’ll uncover the core patterns behind your anxiety and release them using a blend of advanced EFT, subconscious reprogramming, and energy psychology techniques.
This is where the biggest shifts happen.
Personalised Tap-Along Audios & Tools
After each session, I’ll share short, targeted tapping audios and practical tools based on what came up. These help you integrate the work and stay regulated between calls.
You’ll have personalized tools to help you:
- Calm anxiety before social events
- Release shame or judgment after a tough moment
- Bounce back quickly from triggers
- Boost self-acceptance and emotional stability
All accessible from your phone, whenever you need them.
1 on 1 power sessions
(1 hour each, usable anytime within 2 years)
Depending on the package, you’ll receive three or six 1-on-1 power sessions. Most clients use them after our main 3/6-month journey to clear any remaining triggers, integrate wins, or navigate new challenges with support.
These sessions give you the flexibility to keep growing and deepening your results, even after the intensive ends.
Risk-Free First Session Guarantee
If you’re not 100% convinced after our first session, I offer a full money-back guarantee – valid for 24 hours. Not a single person in the past 10+ years has ever requested one, but I offer it so you can move forward with full confidence. (only available to fully qualified, committed clients.)
Lifetime Impact
This isn’t a quick fix. It’s a profound inner shift that affects every part of your life.
When social anxiety no longer runs your life, everything starts to improve. Your confidence, your energy, your relationships, your sense of self. And this allows you to jump on opportunities with excitement, instead of dread and fear.
You’ll gain tools, insights, and emotional resilience that continue to serve you long after our work is complete. This is about lasting change, not just symptom relief.
BONUSES
- One to Two years of Social Confidence Club membership
This gives you access to powerful tap-alongs, live group coaching (and replays), and comprehensive tapping training to support your journey.
You’ll be part of a supportive community of people overcoming the same challenges, many of whom have experienced incredible breakthroughs. This extra layer of support keeps you inspired, consistent, and connected.
- One 90-minute TAT healing session
TAT is a powerful healing modality I’m certified in that allows you to release emotional blocks, even if you don’t know where they came from. And, there’s no need to relive painful memories.
We’ll use TAT throughout your journey whenever it can accelerate your progress. And, we’ll start with one full guided session you can replay anytime for self-directed healing. Just hit play and follow along to dissolve social anxiety triggers with ease.
- One 90min PSYCH-K session to install key identity beliefs
Certain beliefs are essential for social confidence, like
- “I am important, and I matter”
- “I am worthy of respect”
- “I accept my flaws and imperfections”
PSYCH-K is a powerful method for rewiring limiting beliefs at the subconscious level. In this session, we’ll focus on installing the core identity beliefs that support lasting social ease and confidence.
- Your Social Confidence Hub
You’ll receive a secure portal with session replays, custom tapping audios, and additional resources to track progress and accelerate relief.
This way, everything we do is at your fingertips. And you can revisit breakthroughs anytime.
- Email + Whatsapp Support
You’re not on your own between sessions. If something comes up, you can email or WhatsApp me directly. I’ll offer support, next steps, or encouragement to help you keep moving forward.
This ensures you never stay stuck.
Ready to finally stop just managing your anxiety…
and start releasing it for good?
What to Expect During a Session
Each session we gently uncover and release the emotional patterns driving your social anxiety.
It’s okay to feel anxious at the start
If you feel anxious before or at the start of a session, that’s totally normal. In fact, most clients do. And if that happens, it’s not a problem at all. That’s the same anxiety that shows up in real life. But here, we’ll welcome it, tap on it, and release it together.
And if you don’t feel anxious going in, that’s totally okay too. Some clients feel calm or even numb at the start. There’s no right way to show up. Whatever you feel like is perfectly fine; it’s simply our starting point.
You can’t do this wrong
You might wonder, “what if I freeze? what if nothing comes up? what if we don’t get to the root of it?”… Don’t worry, anything that comes up is valuable information. While I follow a proven system I’ve developed over the years (the ART approach) we simply work with whatever comes up in the moment and start addressing it.
We’ll gently release the emotions, beliefs, and protective patterns that have been keeping you stuck. And help you feel more whole, self-assured, and socially at ease.
You don’t need to know what the root of your issue is. That’s my job. And, you even don’t need to prepare for the session. I’ve guided hundreds of people through all kinds of social anxiety blocks and issues. Simply follow my guidance. You truly can’t get this wrong.
“What if this doesn’t work for me?”
If part of you still thinks, “This probably works for others, but I’m the one person it won’t work for…” I get that. When you’ve tried so many things that were supposed to work — but didn’t — it can leave you feeling hopeless, like maybe you’re just a tough case.
Everyone’s process is different, absolutely. But, the core of the issue is the same. And the solutions consistently lead to emotional relief.
In the past 10 years, I’ve never had someone not experience a meaningful shift in their very first session. Which is why I offer a satisfaction guarantee on my first session – I know you’ll feel such relief you’ll be excited to continue.
The feel of a session
Sessions are gentle, intuitive, and trauma-informed. You’ll be fully supported in a safe, non-judgmental space. Most clients say it really helps them to be guided by someone who really gets them, who’s suffered it himself, and knows how to guide you through this.
During the session, you’ll be tuning into some uncomfortable feelings. But never more than you can handle. And the moment something comes up, we begin clearing it with powerful tools. Gradually we’ll release what’s been keeping you stuck.
- After your session
At the end of even the first session, most people feel noticeably calmer, lighter, more grounded.
And most of all: Relieved. Gradually you’ll start to feel more at ease around others, responding with less anxiety and more authenticity.
- Between sessions
You’ll have simple tools (like short tapping audios) to help you stay regulated, process anything that comes up, and keep the momentum going.
Most clients love the process
Most clients come to love the process and actually look forward to their sessions. Not just because it brings profound relief, but because they feel lighter, more empowered. Something important gets released each time. Every session brings you closer to lasting social ease.
“He’s totally present with you, totally engaged, and helps you identify and address issues. He even helps you articulate them. He does a lot of the heavy lifting for you.”
-Tapian Maniar
“Sebastiaan is really great to work with. He has this way to come down to where you are and make you feel comfortable, gently leading you to where you want to be. He also has a great sense of humor, putting fun in the process!”
-Angie
“You deffo have a USP that cannot be patented; even the AI can’t compete here 😆. You see straight through all the strategies. it’s like there’s nowhere to hide. Then, with humor, you gently hold up a mirror… I used to want to die if anyone uncovered those parts of me. Now I’m laughing. Hilariously healing. 💰 Well spent.”
-Fiona
Real People. Real Results: Freedom From Social Anxiety
“Real stories from people who tried everything else… and finally found lasting relief.”
If you’re wondering whether this can actually work for you, I get it.
Everyone below once felt the same: Like nothing would ever truly help.
They’d tried therapy, CBT, mindset work, even tapping. Nothing stuck. Nothing worked.
And yet, they found real, lasting freedom.
What makes their stories even more powerful is this:
Social anxiety used to be their biggest secret. They didn’t want anyone to know about it. And now, they’re sharing their story publicly. Why? Because the problem is gone, and they want others to experience the same freedom they’ve now got.
If they can do it, what if you can too?
John Farrar: 20 Years of Severe Anxiety → Freedom After 10 Sessions
Severe social anxiety for two decades. Nothing worked. Not therapy, medication, support groups, or CBT. Until this.
“I was miserable inside. Every social event was exhausting. I’d try to be the fun guy so people would like me… but I was dying inside. I had every symptom: blushing, sweating, shaking, eye twitching, even going speechless in groups. I felt crushed as a person. I honestly thought this would never change.”
John had tried it all: psychiatrists, counselors, medication (including lithium), CBT programs, support groups, and more. But nothing touched the fear. Until we worked on the root of his fears.
After just three sessions, he felt real relief. After ten, everything changed.
“It felt like something physically shifted in my body. I started to feel comfortable in situations that used to terrify me. One by one, the old triggers didn’t fire. And now, five years later, I have a mound of experiences that tell me: I’m a different person.”
Since our coaching, John has spoken at large events, given a eulogy in front of 1,200 people and 4,000 livestream viewers, and most importantly: feels at ease being himself:
“If I could describe where I’m at socially in one word, I’d say content. I’m just being me. And that’s good enough.”
Today, John is a licensed counselor, running his own private practice in Texas.
Watch our full interview
John's Personal 5-Year Follow-Up Letter After Coaching
John sent me this beautiful letter five years after we finished working together. He kindly agreed to share it here, exactly as he wrote it, in case it helps others who are struggling like he once was.
Mary: From Panic and Isolation → Public Speaking & Dream Life
7 one-on-one sessions + Club support. From hiding in bathrooms to headlining events.
Mary’s social anxiety started after a traumatic accident in her teens, and slowly took over her life. She tried books, mindset work, self-help tools, and forcing herself to “just be more confident.” Nothing worked.
At 30, after a nervous breakdown that landed her in the hospital, she caught a glimpse of the confident self she knew was buried underneath. That spark led her to Seb.
“When I started one-on-one coaching, things finally began to shift: I stopped hiding. I started speaking up. And slowly, my dream life started unfolding.”
Mary has since launched a business, become the lead singer of a band, and confidently speaks and performs in front of hundreds of people.
“I went from being completely terrified to even say my name in a group setting … to confidently speaking in front of dozens of people.
We now host events, weddings, worship nights… The kind of life I used to only dream about.
This work unlocked the real me.”
Watch Mary’s full story
Siamak: From 10/10 Panic to Calm, Confident Public Speaking
Just 3 coaching sessions. Lifelong fear around public speaking: Gone.
“As soon as I was the center of attention, my anxiety would go to a 10. Blushing, shaking, heart pounding. I’d avoid any situation where people might see me anxious. And the worst part? It was completely automatic. I felt powerless.”
Siamak had tried CBT, mindfulness, and exposure therapy. None of it helped. He assumed he was just born this way, until he discovered EFT and reached out.
“I was skeptical at first. I’d tried so much. But something about this felt different. And I realized: It’s my responsibility to try one more time. To see if I can finally live to my full potential.”
The turning point? His 25th wedding anniversary.
“My wife asked if I’d give a speech. Normally I would’ve panicked, but I actually felt calm. I said yes. I stood up, delivered the speech, and actually enjoyed it. That moment proved I was free. I’ve watched the video 10 times, because I can’t believe how confident I look. That version of me used to feel impossible.”
The biggest shift?
“Now I don’t care what people think. I feel calm, grounded, and safe. It’s not just that the fear is gone: It’s like the whole system that used to trigger it is shut off.”
Listen to Siamak’s full story on the podcast
Tiffany: From Isolation to Co-Leading Retreats → 99% Social Anxiety Relief
Tiffany experienced decades of social anxiety, starting in her teenage years. She often isolated herself as she dreaded social situations. Groups larger than 2 or 3 felt overwhelming.
She struggled with self-judgment, rumination, and a deep sense of not trusting others, especially strangers.
Anticipatory anxiety was a major issue. She would worry for days in advance before any social event.
Her dream was to free herself from social anxiety and finally live her potential.
During our 17 sessions, she gradually healed the roots of her anxiety.
Before our work together, the thought of being in a group would trigger dread and self-judgment. Now she’s leading the kinds of groups she used to fear.
“I’m now co-facilitating in-person retreats with 15 women.”
She’s more connected than ever:
“I’ve opened up to more of my community. I’ve met a lot more people.”
And triggers that used to come up with her mother no longer activate her. Her body stays calm, and she feels grounded. Overall, she’s much more grounded:
“There’s this calmness… this vibration of calm that I didn’t used to have.”
She reports a 99% improvement in her social anxiety.
Today, she describes herself as calm, at ease, and genuinely happy.
Watch our full interview
Note: I don’t work with everyone, only those I genuinely believe I can help. If we’re not a match, I’ll tell you honestly. If we are… this may be the thing that finally works – as it has been for many.
Psychotherapist Transforms
After Years of Struggle
“I NEVER would have done that before. It was exhilarating”
As a psychotherapist myself with a history of social anxiety, talk therapy alone just wasn’t cutting it. Now I see the value of using a strong experiential component to give the painful feelings a chance to move out after being evoked.
That’s why the tapping works so well and quickly. It helps move out the feelings that Sebastiaan helps to call up.
Before I started tapping with Sebastiaan, I struggled with social anxiety for years worrying about sweating and blushing, embarrassment and humiliation, and anticipating all kinds of situations with trepidation.
I would isolate and hide to protect myself…
… and I’m a person who loves connection.
But I was really afraid of being judged as a freak and then devalued, rejected and dismissed because of it. It really limited my life.
It created unnecessary dependencies and A LOT of negative thoughts and beliefs about myself, a lot of shame, hopelessness, fear and an unwillingness to move forward in life. Boy was I doing a dance to get through every day.
The frustration and all that toxic energy that I was holding in my system was very uncomfortable. I was afraid to go to parties and definitely really scared to go alone.
I felt like I needed to please people to be accepted. I would hide from authority figures. I had trouble being assertive even though I have strong preferences.
The tapping sessions I’ve been doing with Sebastiaan have helped significantly. I have been in a lot of different types of therapy over the years and for me, this one is remarkably effective.
The combination of the tapping technique and Sebastiaan’s skills and insight have created more forward movement in a short period of time than ever before.
He really is an expert on social anxiety and all of the traps that a person with social anxiety finds himself in.
And I’m not gonna lie, I’m so impressed by him. It’s the combination of his ability to be highly attuned and so articulate that works so well.
His precision cuts through the walls and defenses, gets me in touch with the deeper feelings and assumptions, and with the tapping, moves it out… all while giving me a new and more effective way to frame how I can approach future situations feeling safe and interested in embracing life.
I’m happy to report that now I’m trying lots of things that I used to be afraid of.
I’m more interested in going to parties and I’m actually enjoying them.
I’m less isolated and feel more secure with myself to engage with all different kinds of people.
I’m getting more in touch with what’s important to me and feel hopeful, and I’m so much less depressed.
My anxiety has reduced significantly.
When I do feel anxious as I try new things, I don’t shame myself for blushing or sweating or looking nervous.
I’m more proud of myself for sticking with it even when it’s uncomfortable.
Recently, I invited someone I was chatting with in line at a restaurant to join me and have a meal together. I NEVER would have done that before. It was exhilarating.
I went to a wedding reception on my own and it was fine. I’m excited to keep discovering myself. I’m excited to keep trusting myself and what I know is important to me. I’m learning to be less afraid of the unknown.
I’m even learning to let go of other people’s perceptions of me as I concern myself more with my own self acceptance.
My advice, give Sebastiaan and this process a try. The proof is in the pudding. You’ll know if it’s working in a short period of time. No need to guess.
Adam D: Licensed Psychotherapist (Name changed for privacy)
Angie: Anxiety ruled my life
... Not anymore
“I am finally taking charge of my life...”
I had just graduated with a Masters degree followed by a promotion, but my life felt so meaningless.
The anxiety kept pushing through to the point where it was even waking me up in the middle of the night. My marriage became all about avoiding arguments and dealing with 8 years of infertility.
I had no friends, a negative outlook on life and could not be seen in public without imagining everybody judging me.
After a little short of a year of coaching with Sebastiaan I have a wonderful best friend, improved my relations at work, have stepped up in my career in the sense that I am managing other people for
the first time in 22 years and am finally taking charge of my life.
It’s also great to notice that my outlook on life is naturally positive.
Sebastiaan is really great to work with, he has this way to come down to where you are and make you feel comfortable, gently leading you to where you want to be. He also has a great sense of humor thus putting fun in the process!
Angie
What Real Transformation Looks Like
Raw 1-minute clips and What Others Are Saying (In Their Own Words) from people who were once where you are.
- Mary
From Hiding in Bathrooms To Hosting Events
- John G
“I Don’t Really Feel Anxiety at All Anymore”
- Becca
“Now I Actually Enjoy Being in Groups”
- Kate
Overcame life-long social anxiety at 60
- Sebastian
“That constant lump in my throat? Gone.”
- John Farrar
"I'm confident being myself now, socially."
What Others Are Saying (In Their Own Words)
“I started feeling different within the first few sessions. And by the end of our 10 sessions, I felt like a different person.”
-John Farrar, Licensed Counselor
“I avoided attractive guys for years because I’d get so anxious. I hated that about myself. But after one long session, it felt like something shifted. I don’t avoid people anymore. I actually enjoy being around them.”
-Zizou
“In every room I walked into, I felt inferior. It didn’t matter who it was, I just felt beneath everyone. And I had no idea that could ever change. After that one session with Psych-K, I’ve never -not even once- felt like anyone was above me again. I just feel like everyone’s on the same level. Even my CEO – I see him as a friend.”
-Alfred
“When people talked to me, I’d freeze. My throat would close up. I couldn’t breathe or speak. I felt broken. Now, all my physical symptoms are pretty much gone, which is huge. I can just be in a conversation and say what comes to mind. That’s never happened before.”
-Felicia
“It used to be so bad that I’d plan to go out — even be outside the event — and still talk myself out of it. Now I don’t even think about it. I just go. And it still surprises me sometimes.”
-Tavon
“I used to feel like I’m always in war. Like I have to defend myself all the time. Now that’s gone. It’s calm, relaxed. Even if something happens, I respond easily. Things just come automatically now. There’s no fear in my body anymore.”
-Salua
“I did years of CBT, exposure exercises, even shame attacks. It was terrifying — and didn’t help much. This? This was easy. Gentle baby steps, and over time, everything just got better.”
-Brent
These are real people who once felt stuck too. If you’re curious what this work could look like for you, click below to apply.
Note: The full-length video testimonials above are from 1-on-1 clients I did deep transformational work with. Some of the shorter clips feature Club members I coached just a few times inside the Social Confidence Club. Either way, the transformations are profound and show what’s possible with consistent, committed effort. And with the right support, they’re possible for you too.
Curious About Working Together?
If you’ve quietly carried this for years, and something in you knows it’s time to get rid of this and finally unlock your potential… I invite you to apply.
No pressure. No pitch. Just real talk about:
- Where you are right now
- What’s holding you back from social ease
- What lasting freedom from social anxiety might look like for you
- How I might be able to help you get there
To be clear: This isn’t a coaching session or a free strategy call.
And this isn’t for everyone. I only work with a handful of committed individuals a year who are serious about overcoming their social anxiety once and for all.
It’s a brief, private conversation to explore whether VIP Coaching is right for you. And whether you’re someone I can genuinely help. This is for both of us to see if we’re a good match.
And, to make the likelihood of that very high, please apply below. You’ll be asked to fill in a short form with essential questions. I will review your client form within 24 hours (Mon-Fri), and then my friendly assistant Lia will be in touch to set up our chat in a time that works for you.
Looking forward to connecting,
Seb
Note: It’s not just about whether you want to work with me, it’s also about whether I believe I can genuinely help you. And if your main challenge is social anxiety, I’m confident I can. This is for both of us to see if we’re a good match. If we’re not, I’ll tell you honestly. If we are… this may be the thing that finally works.
FAQs
What if I’ve already tried everything?
That’s actually the case for most of my clients. They’ve done years of therapy, mindset work, CBT, meditation, hypnosis, NLP, and many have also even worked with EFT practitioners. And nothing truly worked. What makes this different is that I’ve lived this myself so I can relate. And, I’ve helped countless others overcome it and learned what is required to liberate yourself. What is required is a combination of the best of psychology with the best of energy psychology (of which EFT is one). We use this to address all 3 keys to social ease using my ART approach:
Allow Acceptance – a prerequisite for lasting change
Release Resistance – the no#1 reason people stay stuck
Terminate Triggers – we will effectively target and neutralise them
While we of course focus on resolving your social anxiety, the bigger focus is on addressing the deeper underlying issues: trauma, damaged self esteem issues, perfectionism, people pleasing, self acceptance issues.
As we resolve the deepest root of the anxiety, by addressing the subconscious patterns that drive it, your social anxiety begins to gradually decrease. And your ease being you around others begins to increase, bit by bit. Changes are initially subtle, but profound. And over time they’ll compound and add up to a solid, unshakeable confidence and ease in social situations.
It’s not a quick fix, but it works. And the results last.
How fast will I see results?
All my clients at this point experience noticeable relief during the very first session. Some even experience a shift in their real-world anxiety right after it. Though for most it takes several sessions to notice big changes in the real world.
It’s also reassuring to know that you’ll receive personalized tools (like tapping audios, guided grounding exercises, etc) to reduce your suffering right after the first session. So straight away you’ll have more control over the anxiety.
While every client is unique, the vast majority of clients experience a reduction in social anxiety within 3-6 sessions.
That said, this isn’t a quick fix, it’s a deep transformation process. The goal is permanent change, and the beauty about this work is that it compounds: Session 2 builds on the 1st. The 3d session on the previous 2, and so on. So you start to feel more and more solid, grounded, and empowered to live your fullest potential.
What if I get anxious during a session?
That’s common, and totally normal. If anxiety shows up, it gives us information about how to resolve it. I’ll help you calm down right away using tapping or other modalities. And, together we’ll work on what’s underneath it. I’ll help you connect to whatever subconscious patterns are feeding the anxiety. And together we’ll release it, gently and effectively.
Do I have to do scary exposures or push myself into situations?
No. This is not the “face your fears” approach. I won’t try to push you into anything terrifying or overwhelming. Instead, we connect with what created the fear first, from the safety of your home, and then we resolve the root of it.
For example, if you’re afraid of embarrassment, your brain learned to fear this at some point. And rather than forcing yourself into awkward social situations, we focus on unlearning the conditioned fear response first.
Often, clients naturally find themselves handling situations they used to avoid… without even trying. Because it simply no longer triggers feelings of shame and fear any longer. Real-life change becomes effortless.
That said, this doesn’t always happen in one go. Sometimes it requires multiple sessions, and reality testing is part of locking in the change. Seeing “how is it now?” after the inner changes will either show you the problem is less intense, or completely gone. In case it’s still bothering you, we will resolve the rest of it in subsequent sessions. Through sessions and reality testing your brain confirms that indeed, this situation is one that’s safe and OK for you, and no longer associates threat with what you formerly feared. Now you’re calm, relaxed, and at ease in a situation that can have haunted you for years, even decades.
Is this like therapy?
Therapy can be helpful for understanding yourself and bringing in self-compassion. But no amount of reasoning will resolve the deeply wired emotion-based perception of threat.
The gentle, deep inner work we do will involve talking when appropriate, but it’s not like traditional talk therapy. Instead, you’ll be guided through targeted emotional clearing, subconscious rewiring, and powerful inner shifts that actually change how you feel, not just how you think.
We work directly with the subconscious patterns that create anxiety, and we use tapping and energy psychology to dissolve them, in real time. You’ll feel better every single session. It is much faster, focused, and more emotionally efficient. Best of all, it leads to permanent freedom from social anxiety.
I don’t know what to say or where to start… Will you help with that?
Yes. In fact, you don’t need to prepare anything or know what to work on. I’ll guide you every step of the way. All you need to do is show up as you are. Whether you’re feeling calm, anxious, blank, or overwhelmed, that’s all welcome.
What if I’ve already tried EFT, and it didn’t work?
That’s common. Most people who’ve tried EFT only scratched the surface, using generic scripts or without guidance. Or, their EFT therapist wanted to help, but didn’t understand how to resolve social anxiety properly.
What we’ll do together is precise, deep, and personalized to your system. You’ll be surprised by how powerful tapping becomes when you know what to target, how to go deep safely, and when to apply it. That’s what I’m here for.
Plus, while I promote EFT the most as it has solid scientific backing, I’m certified and experienced in a variety of other energy psychology modalities, equally (and sometimes more) effective as EFT. And we will use this to get you the fastest relief from social anxiety possible.
“This sounds too good to be true.”
Yes, I can imagine it sounds that way. Especially if you’ve been stuck for a long time or nothing has worked for you before. It can make you feel like you’re “the toughest case”.
I had a severe social anxiety disorder, and nothing I tried worked for me either. Imagining myself socially confident sounded way too good to be true. But there was also a strong craving inside of me. A part of me that said “there’s no way I’m going to give up and stay anxious like this for life”.
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I’m grateful my desperation led me to giving EFT a committed go. Despite it not working initially. Because thanks to the help of brilliant therapists and a lot of persistence, I’ve managed to overcome it completely.
It makes sense to be skeptical. But if you let that make your decisions, you may miss out on something that can actually resolve your social anxiety.
Also, you may want to read some of the research behind EFT as it is a scientifically backed technique (EFT). And, I’ve helped hundreds of others become more socially confident in the past 15 years.
The stories you’ll see below aren’t hype – they’re from real people who thought they were “tough cases” too. Watch them, and you may find the following question begin to rise in your mind:
“Wow, if they can change… maybe this could work for me too”
What is the science behind EFT?
EFT is supported by over 125 peer-reviewed studies and is considered an evidence-based treatment for anxiety, PTSD, and depression by organizations like the APA (American Psychological Association) and NICE in the UK. It works by calming the amygdala (your brain’s fear center) and interrupting the body’s fight-or-flight response. One study compared 5000 anxiety patients over a period of 5.5 years who received CBT vs those who received EFT. You can see its power here:
When tapping is applied skilfully, aimed at the right targets, it can release deeply held emotional patterns quickly and safely. You’ll find research summaries and links at the bottom of this page if you want to dig into the science.
I need to know this is structured and will actually lead somewhere.
Absolutely, there is structure to my approach.
1. Social Anxiety is there because your brain is perceiving a threat socially. This activates the fight, flight, freeze response. Which in turn leads to symptoms we’ve labelled as anxiety. So:
Perception of threat (POT) -> FFF -> Social Anxiety
The POT is made up out of 3 things:
- Painful memories (the time when I was ridiculed in front of class)
- Limiting beliefs (I’m not good enough)
- Scary fantasies (I’m going to embarrass myself and be judged)
Through the best of psychology and energy psychology (EFT, etc) we will release the memories, beliefs, and fantasies that make up the perception of threat.
Perception of threat -> FFF -> Social Anxiety
This is the foundation we work from. That said, my coaching isn’t a rigid step-by-step formula. Instead, we use this framework as a flexible guide. And, from that grounded place, we work with your subconscious to bring about the deepest and most effective healing.
Further, you’ll be able to observe your progress following my clear 5-stage path to social confidence, with 21 milestones along the way.
You’ll always know where you are, what we’re focusing on, and how far you’ve come.
Where is your proof?
Right above this section, you’ll find full-length interviews with former clients who overcame long-standing, severe social anxiety.
Many once saw themselves as “tough cases.” That’s a common belief after trying so many things that didn’t work.
You’ll also find short clips where clients share what life was like before, what shifted during our work, and how things are now.
I’ve recorded 21 full-length testimonial interviews, each between 30 and 60 minutes. What you see here is just a small selection. These are people who once kept their social anxiety a secret, but changed so deeply they now feel proud to share their story with the world.
When you watch these, it’s clear they’re real people who struggled deeply with social anxiety… and found freedom through this work.
If they could do it, what if you can too?
This isn’t just about feeling confident and at ease. It’s about creating a life aligned with what truly matters to you. Clients have stepped into leadership roles, formed romantic relationships, built close friendships, and discovered a sense of purpose. Some even started traveling the world. Not because they became someone new, but because they finally felt safe and free to be themselves.
Ready To Finally Feel Confident Just Being You?
If you’ve tried everything and still feel stuck, this might be the thing that finally works…