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Hi dearest sebastiaan,
I just wanted to say a deep thank you to u for changing my intire life (iam not finished with scs yet still doing the work, as i have many bundles to clear ) but as i have done the work in scs i have changed along and people around me have changed towards me. Iam living a life i have never actually lived before much happier much at peace and its all bcoz of you, yes YOU, soo thank u soo much. I love listning to Itunes on different aspects of social anxiety that u are covering, ur work really makes a big difference as u are the only expert on recovering from socialanxiety. I have never made a review on anythink, i dont know iam not that kind of person, but with this amazing scs which is soo life changing i will make a honest review and spred the word trough social media soo it can reach people that need it.
Plz keep up the good work u are saving lifes.
Best wishes for u and ur family
Hey Sebastiaan, I want to thank you alot. The scs is working really well for me. I am up to ’10, Non Scary Exposures’ and i’m feeling very good. I still get nervous when i’m meeting new people but it’s not as noticeable, and I get over it after a few hours of being around them. While I used to get nervous around people that I’ve known for months and seen every day.
I even feel a lot more confident about everything in life. I applied for a assistant managers job at my workplace. And I got the job today. It’s a big deal for me because I would never have had the confidence to do that before I started the tapping. I’ve been hanging out with friends almost everyday after work. I feel much better and other people feel better around me.
Thanks so much for putting this SCS together. I honestly think that if I didn’t find this program then I would still be stuck with bad anxiety because I’ve tried many things and the tapping is the only thing that’s worked.
Just wanted to let you know that since the last session we had, after you had recommended me to go back to step 1 ACCEPTANCE, i am doing much better.
Realistically speaking, i think my SAD has reduced by at least 35%. And i am confident that if i am persistent daily with the SCS exercises, i can reduce it further.
Just wanted to update you on my progress.
Thanks very much,
Many thanks for sharing this. I also want to take this opportunity to make a big thanks to you and all you have created with the “social confidence system”. I am working with it since April, and it has helped me a lot, really changing completely my approach and feeling towards anxiety and inner fears. There is no way to describe the relief, the positive thinking and the good energy. I am really enjoying my inner changes.
Deep and total thanks!
i just wanted to send this email to thank you for your free articles and your scs, it is helping me alot in my journey to overcome my social anxiety and i just wanted to express my deep appriciation for your work in helping those who suffer social anxiety as you know this from personal experience and know just how debilitating it is and how free you can feel once you release all the negative emotinal meanings you give to the experiences that has contributed to the problem.
just wanted to say thank you for keeping up with the kick ass work whice is still helping me and hundred of thousands around the world! thank you 🙂
I hope u are good. I just wanna say thank you from all my heart for making this programme, bcoz it has helped me soo much, iam in step 4 right know and soo far my progress is amazing. I just had 3 weeks vacation with my familly i enjoyed alot (after soo long) I can go out like everywhere with my 3 year old son know in the busses big shopping centers many places i couldent think of before, i can give him a normal life , it means soo much to me, before i could not even walk on the street i was afraid to get eye contact with people it was soo bad and know iam more relaxed. As a bonus i have lost 16 kg bcoz iam not sad and depressed like before i dont need all that food and dont get those cravings.
I just want u to know that u have actually saved a life bcoz i was always thinking of suicide, seriously my life was soo bad becoz of my anxiety. your work matters soo much. Thank u for that.
I know iam on my way to be socially confidant i will not give op i will reach my goal. I will always remember u and your familly in my prayers.
It has been a while since I have contacted you but I wanted to email you to simply say thank you. Your course has helped to change my life, and funnily enough, without my realising it! I never truly noticed a change in me until yesterday. I went through an anxious episode (which thankfully was not triggered by anything ‘social’ but by something completely different) and experiencing all those physical and mental symptoms – the heart racing, the palms sweating, the stuttering, the inability to think straight, the negative thoughts, the feeling of doom etc. made me realise how far I had come. Constantly feeling anxious and negative was once so normal for me but now my new normal is a sense of calmness, a sense of serenity. So, when I felt anxious yesterday I was shocked at how abnormal it all felt. I was shocked that I couldn’t remember the last time I had felt like that!
Your course has worked miracles, but in such a wonderfully subtle way that I never actually realised I changed! I still feel like me, I still act like me, so much so that it took an anxious moment for me to notice that I am actually different! Now when I think about it, I am so much more comfortable around people. I have fun with them whereas before I was too stuck in my head to have fun. I am more confident in myself and my abilities. I am more present 🙂 Your course is brilliant. Thanks so much for making it available for us to use. I would definitely recommend it to anyone who would like to be free of their anxiety once and for all. And if anyone is afraid of changing (like I was) then don’t be. You will change in such a gentle and gradual way that you won’t even feel it.
Thanks Sebastian, you’re actually pretty awesome 🙂
Before I started doing SCS, my anxiety was really bad and I used to have panic attacks and also attacks of despair, anger and bunch of other emotions really often. If I should rate general intensity of my anxiety back then, it would be anywhere between 1-10 although most of the time it would be in the upper half. Now, having finished step 3 and just about starting step 4, I noticed some changes. I rarely get panic and other attacks, and general intensity of my anxiety has lowered and got more steady, so now for past week or so I would rate my anxiety somewhere between 2-4 pretty much everyday without or with just a little swaying. So I have been wondering if that’s usual and if you’ve come across this before. Sebastiaan, did receive the SCS info and have just gave it my first glance to familiarize myself with it to know where I,am going and what to expect.
First of all THANK YOU for putting in the years of research,time and effort to find the roadmap to success that all of us have suffered have been looking for!! Do you realize the impact you are having and the potential now in each person you are uncovering to live life to their full potential? Thus then, having positively affect all the people in their lives? Awesome!! Your system finally started working for me and I can feel that natural confidence now. I’m going to keep working through the system. Thanks for providing the SCS you did a great job. I don’t know how you could make it better because now that it has worked for me I think its pretty amazing as is. Thanks again.
Hi Sebastiaan I was going to write you a testimonial, hopefully it serves you.
From the moment I hit puberty, around age 11, I started having trouble with social situations. My focus was more with the other kids, instead of having fun myself, and living my life. From that moment the discomfort and awkwardness has never left, and my problems only got worse in middle school. Here there were new kids, and older popular kids who always had something to say and were ready to verbally attack me. I therefore remained silent and in the background. During this period of my life, when “popular” people started talking to me, I became extremely nervous. And when they were girls, I locked up and closed off completely. Also during my college years this problem remained.
I made some slow progress, but the inner stress and worry (anxiety) remained constantly. During this period I also started to develop panic attacks, because I couldn’t deflate the anxiety. Especially when I got a girlfriend everything got worse and out of control. It eventually broke off after 3 years mainly because of my anxiety.
After my study I’ve gone –mainly to overcome my problems, face my fears and face the unknown- on a wolrd trip. I thought that if I were to do that, then all my problems would resolve themselves. Unfortunately, this didn’t happen. Because after 5 months I came home earlier than planned, completely exhausted. I even started taking anti-despressive medication.
After many therapy sessions with psychologists, (3 years long) I found Sebastiaan’s Social Confidence System. I could relate to his story about his past, and decided to give it a go. And I’m very happy I did! I definitely notice a difference. I’ve become comfortable in busy places (bars, cinemas, trains, restaurants, concerts, etc.) and have more energy to do what I feel like doing. Of course I sometimes still have some fear that something will go wrong, but the beauty of this program is that you take that into consideration, use EFT, and then go for it! I’m not anxiety-free yet, and I daily use EFT to keep moving forward. The differences with EFT before and after are very subtle, that’s the beauty of this. You sometimes after a few days think to yourself, he I don’t feel so nervous anymore. Step by step I become more and more calm and relaxed! Really a tremendous relief.
That’s why I can say to you reading this, if you suffer from a social phobia, definitely give this program a chance!
So I’m persisting with the SCS system and I am seriously feeling mentally lighter each day.
I just wanna tell u that this is really the most powerfull programe i have ever tryed. I am working on chilhood baggage step 3, and iam not finish at all, but i have already started to feel calm and at peace (which i havent done the last 13 years) soo thank u. I want u to know that your work makes a big difference, u help people u save people ( this maybe sound a bit dramatic to u but i really mean it ) bcoz i know it from my self . I will recommend this scs to others aswell.
God bless u soo much.
What a day it was at school today. I felt 100x times better. When i was about to get anxious i just accepted everything and it worked! I didn’t felt anxious then. Anyway i had feeling few times before but this time I’m more in control than ever…..i had a very calmed mind today, i think because of EFT tapping and self acceptance. I don’t know how but i just felt a lot more calmed today!!
Thanks a lot!
The last few days I have started to really feel a bit more accepting and happy of myself 🙂
I’m really enjoying the SCS and am finding it really helpful! I’ve been working on neutralizing my S.E.E.’s and am noticing a change in how I interact with people – more relaxed, etc.
First of all, congratulations with your program. It helps me step by step. I more and more frequently feel relaxed in social situations 😉 I no longer look up to “popular” people like I used to. That was my main problem. That feels completely resolved.
I did the bundle thing and have actually noticed some results. im a server at a restaurant and conversations are lasting forever. lol i use to be a robot with each table. Also i was at a bar and a chick asked me to dance, which has never ever happened lol Thanks Bro!
I just wanted to say thank you very much for the videos, etc, they are really helpful. I feel like I’m really starting to change for the first time in years. I have seen an EFT practitioner here in England which has helped a bit but in all honesty I found your videos more useful as they go to the root of the problem. thanks again
Thank you for sending the link, it’s great to hear about your experience, because for a long time I thought it’s only me with this problem. I’ve just recently found you on YouTube and then signed up onto your site and I started using your techniques. I already feel the change, it’s brilliant and liberating, I never thought I’ll be able to talk to people again without going red in the face for no obvious reason. So it’s been life changing and a relief that I’m a normal person after all and not a weirdo, as I’d been feeling before. I’m happy that it worked for you too and not suffering with SA anymore as where would I be without you :-))
Hello,Sebastiaan! Jus wanna thank u cuz this was on ur web that I first got in touch with this magic tool that is EFT. I am really getting better.Practically no anticipation.I sat for an important exam last week and I was concentrated and calm.I go everywhere tomorow I ll go to the dentist’s.Thank u!OH,happy new year!:)
Just to let you know.,have done the bundles work…it makes a lot more sense to me and feel a lot better…thank you! 🙂
WOW!!! I feel a loooooooot better, I feel calm, just completely calm after doing the subconscious resistance. My heart isn’t beating fast, my face inst hot and red, like my ears, this is AWESOME! I feel so incredibly calm, it’s insane, I never thought that I would feel like this. I did what you told me except I completed almost the whole page. I Have quite some time, so I’m going to be honest with you, I spent three hours on this, but I don’t regret it, and I don’t feel tired, I feel calm after doing the whole page. Very calm, In fact, I wan’t to go outside my neighborhood right now, and greet everyone I see, which is odd as hell. I feel blissful, and content. I know you always said not to spend a long time on it, but I think spending a lot of time on it works for me, just because I’m so anxious. But to answer your question of steps, I’m following the workbook. I have completed SAD structure and social confidence road map, wrote down all the answers and questions, read the rules, read articles about TRUE social confidence, tapped along to “afraid of doing eft correctly.” , Release general resistance of change, in this section I tapped a long to “overcoming common negative beliefs about possibility to change.” Downloaded a pdf to “changing beliefs of overcoming social anxiety.” , and that’s about it, I stopped once you told me to do subconscious resistance, which I’m very happy about because My anxious heart seems to have disappeared! That’s where most of my anxiety is, my heart. But yes, I feel calm after doing this 🙂
Thanks, Sebastiaan. Yes, I’ve been using the bundling baggate technique lately (I used it 4 times already, for dealing with: a specific highschool classmate’s bullying, past bullying in general, women’s rejection, and childhood baggage) and I feel much better and peaceful about all those things, and therefore my feeling of overwhelm has diminished a lot. And I’m starting to feel some generalization effect already (prior to the bundling baggage, I’d done the clearing a S.E.E technique for 4 other different SEEs). So, in summary, I think this is going very well.
I want express more appreciation to you fro creating the SCS… I’m well on my way to finally becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be 🙂
In my world you can’t praise other people too much so here comes a praising mail to you J. In this moment I’m so happy and grateful, for having found this program and for the first time in my life, being apple to make EFT work for real. – I’ve now several times been able to remove a strong anxiety feeling in my solar plexus with only one round of tapping! (after I’ve applied the k+k tapping and removing the subconscious resistance for letting go of the feeling) It’s such a step through for me – so many times in the past I’ve tried to work with my heavy emotions, especially this one in solar plexus and only manage to change it a few times out of many times trying. So actually being able to remove the same feeling so quickly is SO amazing! And with all this gratitude and happiness bursting through me, I wanted to send some of it your way for being so brave to make this program and stand forth to help other dealing with the same problem. J What a treat for the world! Thank you so very much J Sunshine.
while I’m writing you anyway I want to say thank you for making this program! I’ve taking quit a journey myself to overcome this anxiety completely – been around a Master in NLP and various other techniques, (latest I attended a 3 day seminar with John Assaraf in San Diego quite interesting!) and I’m sure that this, EFT, is the answer. I also realize that learning this program, and EFT, gives me access to changing other beliefs and tapping other emotions away – so it’s so much more than just a “tapping-gate-way-to-highsocial-confidence” it’s also a guiding system I can use in other parts of my life – and how awesome is that! 🙂
So thank you for designing this wonderful program! I think it’s so important to see you as a proof for the fact that it is actually achievable to release social anxiety for good. I’ve been looking for an example like yours.
Well yesterday something amazing happened….i was actually able to release all Feelings of guilt, even the one from my past life with the Troubleshooting Video! I didnt tthink this was possible without knowing the specific reason, but it was, and thats all that matters…i felt so light and good about myself! Awesome!
Thanks for everything SEbastiaan, the SCS is BRILLIANT and so much woth every penny i paid for it ( and much much MORE!)
well…i bought your product and i have to say that after working on some things i felt more liberated and my body langauge changed . i felt more comftable at conversing with people and thing started to shift for me and my thoughts began to change and i couldnt believe how such a simple(at first glance it looks like mambo jambo stuff) excersice be so powerfull and so liberating and i started to see that this a tool i can use to change my thoughts quicly and effectevly hence change my life. i started at that point to understand and not just intelectually but feel that my beliefs are the filter that through them i see the world and i attract in the physical world what thoughts i have inside the “box”.
So far I am really liking the program I bought.
You offer a lot of tapping sequences for the resistance. I am going through them and feel a subtle shift in awareness of how SAD has impacted my life in ways I never realized. Amazing. I hope to continue every day. It is quite tiring after 3 tapping sequences…but I love that you have so many tap alongs! Really great! I am a ‘tough case” 🙂 is great… I could have tapped all day on that one.
Oh and the test was eye opening. I had NO idea I was sooo social anxious…but as I learn more… I am realizing how pervasive it is. And how not wanting to go to a party or even visit my family might not be an meaness or rudeness on my part or disconnection (selfish) — it might be simply that I am scared… and not even realize the fear in it all. Thanks for your rich program – thus far. Only up to the subconscious resistance step 4 or so out of 18? Looking forward to being committed to doing the work. I believe that even if I don’t get it all ‘cured’ EFT is bound to make a dent (tap tap tap). thanks again!!!
I want to thank you for creating such a great program. I bought the Social Confidence program about a week ago. I am at the step “Subconscious Resistance”. Wow… is all I can say. No wonder nothing I tried in the past has worked. I am already feeling lighter and better about myself. I have never seen the structure of social anxiety and the solution to releasing the fear laid out so clearly before. If the rest of the program is as effective as getting rid of the subconscious resistance as it is in getting rid of the actual social anxiety, $197 is VERY cheap. I am actually rethinking my career plans and am very excited about my future now.
Thanks you very much!
Sebastiaan, thank you for putting the course together and being willing to “teach a man to fish.” You’ve given a huge gift here. I think there is possibly other clever therapists out there with this info or parts of it, but that’s only going to be useful to the few clients they have the time to see. The structure you’ve put together will touch a lot of people I think
Im starting to see some progress now because Im starting to have these “did I just do that?” situations which is pretty amazing.
“Also, I have been plodding along, but have made some great improvements so far with my social anxiety, thanks to your system. I still definitely have some work to do with tapping on specific SEEs, and sometimes the list seems endless, but because I have been feeling better I am committed to continuing.”
Hi there dear Sebastian!
Congratulations on an absolutely awesome, very easy to follow Programme!
I am working still working on acceptance and I made some progress on it. My meeting on last Sat was great in some situation I was a bit anxious but I believe that I improved a lot 🙂
Much appreciated my man. Great to see someone so honest online not scamming people. Im feeling the benefits of EFT already after a few days. I think more people should know how effective it is to deal with S.E.E’s and resistance etc. when trying to eliminate their SAD.
I wanted to let you know that i purchased the SCS program and is absolutely amazing.
I’ve spent most of my teens and twenties looking for *the* social anxiety cure, if such a thing actually existed. After a 10+ year search (& plenty of snake oil salesmen), I stumbled over the psychological equivalent of the holy grail: EFT & Sebastiaan’s EFT-based Social Confidence System. I’ve made more headway in a few months using the SCS than the previous 10+ years of talk therapy, cog-behavioral therapy, hypnosis & affirmations combined. Seriously. This s–t works. Thanks again, Sebastiaan!
Thank you so much Sebastiann. You program has been a God send to me.
Hey Sebastian, all the new updates to the program are great especially all the new resistance stuff:) I’ve even been to a couple parties now too:)
Thank you for your excellent work and your contribution to help those that suffer from this life-limiting condiiton.
I have been tapping like mad (lol) – beginning to feel different now. Hope you don’t mind me saying that I do think with some of your later tap along videos I find the silences not quite long enough and I have to rush through the words before you start speaking again. Never the less this is a great course, it really does cover everything and is giving me a complete work out on SAD.
Thank you Sebastian. I really like your video on Overcoming deeply rooted beliefs. I use it on everything I find that I believe that I don’t like:)
On a happy note, I went to a BBQ for my graduate program today and felt very calm throughout it, so that’s a big change. I’ve had those calm feelings before at social events but not so much lately, so I think that is a good sign, and hopefully it lasts. I had class on Tuesday and I was still pretty nervous and anxious during those, though, so obviously there is still work to be done, but I think I’m headed in the right direction. Thanks so much for all your help! When going through the new versions of the clearing SEEs pdfs that you sent me, I liked the fact that you talked about how the event can be something that someone else may not think is emotionally traumatic but that it can still have been meaningful and hard for you, especially as a child. I think that some of what I’ve been hung up on is that I feel like my experiences have not been that bad compared to some other folk’s experiences, and so then I feel a little embarrassed that have an anxiety disorder that has been triggered by these events and feelings. I realize that it plays into the vicious cycle when I feel ashamed that I feel ashamed about certain experiences in my life, so hopefully I can get on to the path of greater acceptance of my own feelings. Sorry- kind of rambling…
Your program has helped me immensely. Thank you! I have been doing the program for the past few months and have been spending a great deal of time with the “Bundles”….I have created bundles for the my most challenging areas of my life and have been tapping away on a daily basis. I keep adding to the list of thoughts, feelings, ect I wish to confront.
One particular video that I keep redoing because of it’s impact is the “Blocks to Social Confidence” video. I have been tapping away at long held limiting beliefs that grew out of years of verbal and psychological abuse. Thanks again for your great work. So appreciative that you choose to pursue this path to help so many find a way out.
By the way, I think your presentation and explanations are not only crystal clear, they are brilliant! They should be used to train psychologists who don’t understand SAD at all.
Many thanks for your help
I have just this minute purchased your program. I have only “skim read” it to get an overall view of content, and I just had to tell you that I am really excited! I say this because I have never seen such a comprehensive coverage of SAD and even by a quick overview I can see that you have covered many many aspects that I can relate to. What excites me is that you seem to be the only person I have come across who has recognised in detail the multi-layered nature of SAD. This in itself gives me great hope. I say this after about 37 years of SAD, and trying many things including NLP and hypnotherapy which I really believed were the magic cures, but proved not to be. Some things I have tried worked to a degree but I am far from cured. Your course has given me something to work on. I know it is very early days yet, but I am already inspired! I have not tried EFT before, though have read about it.
I was down in the dumps. Every day I was overwhelmed by social anxiety to such an extent that I found it near impossible to be comfortable in any social situation. Even being with my friends caused my heart rate to get jacked up and my mind to start racing.
It was a living hell and if you are reading this, you know how painful social anxiety can be, and how much it can hold you back in life from things that you wish you could enjoy. It’s not like I had not been trying to overcome my problem.
I had gone to 5 psychologists over the course of about 3 or 4 years and it seemed like I was only getting worse.
To be honest, the therapists I had seen did not fully understand what my problem was or why I was making such a big deal out of it. Sure, they tried to help but I don’t think they ever could grasp how powerful and overwhelming my social anxiety was.
So why spend any more money without getting results? I was done. I pretty much gave up hope that I would ever get better.
About a month or two later I was in an extremely depressed state, even for me. I googled different methods for combating social anxiety and somehow i wound up on Sebastiaan’s youtube channel.
I watched one of his videos and it immediately made my feel significantly less anxious. This motivated me to watch some more of them and I and was shocked to discover that someone else actually understood exactly what I was going through. This motivated me to at least want to set up an appointment with him.
However, I was extremely skeptical of his whole “EFT tapping technique.” I told him that there was no way that tapping could help but I still wanted to speak to him. I still remember how much better I felt after just the first session.
Sebastiaan himself experienced and dealt with social anxiety and just speaking to someone who had overcome my disorder gave me so much hope.
Plus, he is extremely friendly, understanding, and he made me feel perfectly comfortable even while speaking to him about aspects of myself that I felt ashamed of. After a couple of sessions, I was feeling somewhat better and my views on his technique were changing.
I became much more in tune with my subconscious resistances and the reasons for my fear of letting go of social anxiety. I would not say that I am 100% socially confident in every situations but I can thankfully say that I have a very solid social confidence that I never dreamed I could attain.
Everyone who has SA has a different story and perhaps a unique manifestation of the disorder. However, there are certain common themes that all sufferers share as Sebastiaan has made me realize from his experience with so many other clients like me.
If I can overcome it, and Sebastiaan can overcome it, and countless others can overcome it, then there is no reason why you cannot as well.
If you are suffering from Social Anxiety, I highly recommend giving Sebastiann’s methods and techniques serious consideration. Words can not do justice to the difference I feel as a result of his therapy and I am confident that he can help you as well.
Hey Sebastiaan 🙂
Just wanted to let you know I’ve been doing well. No major anxiety spikes or anything! Something I’ve noticed is that when I have the attitude of being unaccepting or impatient about my remaining anxiety (if there is any) then I feel like I’m not progressing and I can get anxious and upset about the smallest thing.
However when I have that attitude of complete self-acceptance, everything changes. If I perceive someone to be judging me, it doesn’t matter, and if I sense myself feeling shy momentarily, it doesn’t matter, because it’s like I’ve beaten myself to the punch by accepting all those things in the first place, and that then enables me to respond freely in the moment without any anxiety hindering me.
I feel like I’m deepening more and more in my self acceptance and confidence, which wouldn’t have been as easy at is now without the work we did, so thank you so much 🙂 Like that analogy you gave at the end of our last session of the sinking ship, I do feel like there are only small holes left to plug, and they don’t even seem big enough to bother me.
By the way, I’ll be leaving soon to go on a trip to Fiji with my friends so I won’t be back until 10th July. Can I update you after then and see how we go?
Thanks again, and I hope you’re doing well 🙂
Update for today. I felt amazing going zto the gym.i felt like it was ok that i was attracted to girls. And it felt so easy beimg there it felt a bit like ididnt deserve it. But sebastastian this is just fucking epic.
I’ve been feeling good, I talked to a neighbour I used to avoid and I aren’t as worried about going on my ski season!
update for the past few days:
I’ve noticed I am beginning to enjoy eating. Usually it’s because I need to eat rather than I like to. I react less seriously to things. I have been feeling some types of belonging, where I can totally just be in the situation.
My words feel like they have less weight to them. Talking to people has always been a hassle, painful, scary, hard. I’ve always felt like I’m being told what to do by the other person so my mind was never open to their opinion, and I also never really got to connect.
I’m starting to feel healthy feelings of friendship. I still have many moments where my anxiety takes over and I lose all focus. I’m still having trouble doing the daily eftcuz of sub resistance, so i am a bit worried about that. But feeling like things are getting a lot easier.
This is an update for the past few days:
When I am walking, I have become more sensitive to the pains in my legs. Before I would walk on that pain and force myself. I’m kind of learning how to walk, run, exercise. I feel tired a lot, I am much much more focused than I have ever been before but tired as well.
I’m starting to become attracted to girls and allow myself to have feelings and to flirt where before I would totally ignore or demean the sexual part of all girls, I feel like I am starting to respect that aspect of them while enjoying them as a human.
But ya back to working out, before it would be the most painful thing, I would force myself to go every day no matter how I felt. Now I can go at any pace my bod is rdy for. The hugely built up tension in my muscles are being loosened a lot.
Most important of all is I am feeling more ok around people, more like i can do whatever I like and more of a feeling of love and acceptance. Just little glimpses of that
I usually leave the house once or twice a week. Today I had to go in the city – (fist time leaving the house since our session) – because I am unemployed and once a month I have to go in to sign some documents to show I’m still here.
Anyways… I was standing in the queue and First time for a long time I was thinking positive about the people around me “He looks like a cool guy” “She must be a kindhearted, lovely girl” “”This dude looks like a funny fellow to hang around with, I would definitely start a conversation if I had the courage and knew what to say” and things like these.
It was a nice experience. For a short time, then the good old “everyone is out to get me” kicked in. It’s funny even to write down everyone is out to get me. My logical part knows that it ridiculous, still, if we believe in something we act according to it, even if it is hurt or not helping us.
I just wanted to share this with you. Thank you.
The last few days I have started to really feel a bit more accepting and happy of myself 🙂
feeling good after our last session.
I’m feeling a lot more at ease around people who used to make me feel hostile.
yes I think i got it. i did the bundle thing and have actually noticed some results. im a server at a restaurant and conversations are lasting forever.
Loli use to be a robot with each table. Also i was at a bar and a chick asked me to dance, which has never ever happened lol Thanks Bro!
Just wanted to write you to say a big thank you. The session yesterday somehow worked a bit and today I feel hopeful for the first time that this is something that could be helpful (you’re probably not surprised, but for me it’s a HUGE….. comfort!) I’m more at ease today and realize that I feel less vulnerable to feeling attacked from “the world”.
I’m very grateful for your huge dose of patience and persistence with me, since at times I felt like I was being a very difficult, small child. Your encouragement and (again!) patience really helped me to keep on going.
I can sense that you and I are pretty different people but your careful listening and professionalism really helped me to clarify some of the feelings that I was having trouble with. I realize there’s still a lot to do, which is overwhelming, but I’m thankful to have you as a “guide” to assist me when I get stuck.
So, bravo, and thanks again for sharing your talent with the world 🙂
An update email for you.
I feel a LOT more at ease around women.
I have had some experiences that mark my progress, ill share them with you:
1. I shared a moment with the women next door, just a simple hi but considering we normally ignore each other it meant something.
2. Saw a picture of Emily on fb, which is pretty rare, and it had a very different feel to what I had thought of her. it was good.
3. Last night I had a dream about frankies family, she wasn’t in it, I was helping them find their dog. They didn’t acknowledge me at all and all walked away form me, I looked at a friend i was with and then gave her family a sarcastic wave.
Don’t know what it means, but i know it felt better than my previous feelings for them. I used to feel inferior to them.
Thank you for sending the link, it’s great to hear about your experience, because for a long time I thought it’s only me with this problem. I’ve just recently found you on YouTube and then signed up onto your site and I started using your techniques.
I already feel the change, it’s brilliant and liberating, I never thought I’ll be able to talk to people again without going red in the face for no obvious reason. So it’s been life changing and a relief that I’m a normal person after all and not a weirdo, as I’d been feeling before.
I’m happy that it worked for you too and not suffering with SA anymore as where would I be without you :-))
Well, just wanted to thank you for putting up your site and sharing what you’d learned. Wish you all the best in life and keep these emails coming.
I am feeling pretty good after the last session, I have had some moments where I am in ore at the clarity of my mind and improved comfort in situations.
How I feel about my Mum has improved loads too.
I had a massive group interview today, about 150 people in the one room! Although I was still shy and nervous, I enjoyed being able to accept myself despite my feelings. 🙂
Just wanted to let you know I’ve been having a good week! 🙂 I’ve been noticing a greater ease to be myself, and a greater confidence, and I don’t feel like all of my energy is caught up in my great fear and judgment of appearing awkward.
That fear might not even be there anymore? It’s so funny and strange to feel freer and notice how things have become non-issues since last Wednesday!
I do notice a little shyness still/a small concern for what people are thinking, but it’s a lot less.
I’ve been continuing the personal power process as well, and I’m not really feeling any resistance in step 2 anymore except a vague fear?
I can’t distinguish whether it’s still a fear of social situations, or a fear of not being able to be get over my fear of social situations.
Anyway I’m excited to continue on Wednesday and thank you for your guidance. :):)
Okay – we had a 90 min session last week ( Friday ) and I was so apprehensive about my forthcoming weekend – Sebastiaan – I had such a lovely relaxed weekend – and have been a different person this week …..chatty, relaxed, living life again.
I am sooooo thankful and happy about this. I cannot thank you enough!!!
I pray that this lasts- but even now I believe I have the tools to deal with it if it does and have trust that this process does work.
If this lasts, you are amazing – I cannot thank you enough and will do everything to promote your work !!
I have experienced a big shift from the last tapping session, pretty much in the moment now. I am very grateful.
I just wanted to thank you for your news letter and your techniques which have helped me to overcome my social anxiety.
I wanted to share something that had been quite beneficial to me in hopes that it might be beneficial to you. I was wondering to myself what the root cause of my social anxiety was, and after an extensive searching of my soul, I came to the conclusion that it was caused by self-centered fear.
The only way I have found to get passed this spiritual malady was to be of service to my fellow. This works for me, maybe it will work for others as well.
Take care Sebastiaan!
I wanted to tell you that I’m doing pretty good since our last session. That evening after the session I went to bed feeling enormous peace and acceptance. Whenever other stuff tried to destroy my peace of mind I was able to be ok with this moment.
I still do this visualization you recommended. I have to admit however that when I do it myself, I don’t feel it the way when you were guiding me. When I try to go back sometimes to that moment when my dad said that I was like my mother, it doesn’t seem to bother me anymore, I don’t feel any negative emotions.
Thanks, and see you next Wednesday.
I went out on Saturday and I did tapping before I went out and I swear my anxiety was so low. I was talking to people, got a guy’s phone number, was helping my friends flirt with people, it was like the old days!
I also tapped before work yesterday and noticed it helped. I am now really buying into EFT. It just seems to work. You know? ha.
The good stuff is that I was calmer & more able to stand up & talk in front of everyone w/o utter panic!
But I have been blushing when asked a question etc … Think mainly cos the focus on me but cos I felt like didn’t want to appear stupid or to not know something or get it wrong.
Still lots internal dialogue telling me what others think of me (all negative!)
Really interesting – still work to do but at least felt bit different!
Hello,Sebastiaan!Juswanna thank u cuz this was on ur web that I first got in touch with this magic tool that is EFT.I am really getting better.
Practically no anticipation.I sat for an important exam last week and I was concentrated and calm.I go everywhere tomorow I ll go to the dentist’s.
Thank u! OH, happy new year!:)
I really noticed an improvement in my behaviour and thinking since our session. As i recall all the discussion and the tapping i feel better and my insight towards that issue has changed so overall i have a general feeling of comfort.
Oh and today i had to go to a movie plus an eatout. My anticipatory anxiety was the same sebastiaan , but i wasn’t procrastinating the whole day so the anxiety wasn’t like with me the whole day just when the event was near.
I felt indigestion and i vomited before leaving, i felt pretty bad. But afterwards i enjoyed! i was pretty much relaxed and felt safe 🙂 as i told you my general feeling overall has changed to some extent.
Immediately after our session, i felt liberated and quite happy. Thank you for your help.
The email is getting long so will end it here.
Thanks ..it was a good experience , you were very patient and understanding. You cleared a major portion of my guilt 🙂
I’m definitely noticing progress. I was almost anxiety-free while shopping with my sister on Sat, and later, studying for the GRE (grad school entrance exam).
That’s pretty cool. I also had the realization that I really could get totally over this, and it doesn’t need to be excruciating 🙂
I’m feeling great! after our last session I’ve realised some of my earlist SEE(worry) and I can now feel my feeling as my own. I don’t care about my anxiety anymore and yesterday I walked trough town feeling soo free despite my anxiety being there
I still have anxiety in social situations but I just don’t care about it and if I think about going somewhere and think I don’t dare, I just do it!
I have felt this amazing calmness at times that I never remember feeling ever!
I am very greatful for all your help and the SCS if I hadn’t found it I don’t know how it would have turned out for me.
Been super busy socially, I think I am feeling more connected to people. Difficult to quantify but maybe 25% less anxiety overall. This self acceptance is the right path to start on.
You asked me to let you know how I am going. I have my bad and good days but I feel like I have resolved most of my past issues. When I think about the past I don’t get stuck in it like I used to.
I still do have times when little silly incidences go around in my head but I feel a bit like my mind still has the negative beliefs and doesn’t have the big past issues to go to as evidence anymore so it searches for any little thing it can (if that makes sense).
When I think of the last incident we work on in the last session with the mean girls, I now see the picture that we installed. I am not seeing it quite as clearly as I did when we first installed it and the happy feeling isn’t as strong but it’s still there. So about the I am over the moon!
I am taken abacka bit as I seem to have moved so much stuff in in less time than I would have thought. I still feel a tiny bit skepitical of EFT as I feel like it couldn’t be that easy but must admit it seems to work and fast!
I am feeling good, and it definitely feels like I am getting better with each session we have. Awesome! 🙂
When I think back to when I was a child in school I can see the good images we have “planted” there, and they feel good.
On a happy note, I went to a BBQ for my graduate program today and felt very calm throughout it, so that’s a big change.
I’ve had those calm feelings before at social events but not so much lately, so I think that is a good sign, and hopefully it lasts. Thanks so much for all your help!
I’ve been really good! I can’t think of any times experiencing a lot of anxiety – things have improved big time 🙂
Before the coaching I had very low self-esteem and I had social anxiety disorder. I didn’t like to speak up in front of people and I would get embarrassed and blush very easily in social situations. I used to always get paranoid that people were talking about me and looking at me.
Now I just feel POSITIVE. Maybe not all of the time (thatwould be weird!) but there are times when I feel so energised and excited about life! I feel like I have insight into myself and the ways in which I think. I now feel more aware of things I need to improve about myself and I feel positive about these things.
I have also found myself caring less about what people think about me.
EFT is really weird looking and I felt a little silly doing it at first but soon got over that. I feel better about myself and I feel more confident.
Sebastiaan is a really nice person. He is very helpful and friendly and never makes you feel uncomfortable or anything.I also think he is a really cool person because he travels around the world a lot, which is something I think would be fun to do so he shows people what it would be like to be completely socially confident and so this encourages youto carry on with EFT.
Anyway, I would like to say thank you very much for being my EFT coach. It was really beneficial and it worked! Thank you, I wish you all the best!
Good news!! For the first time in long, long time I managed eye contact even with a stranger.. the shame feeling seems to have disappeared!!
I came across sebastiaans site when I was doing a search for remedies for social anxiety as I have suffered from feelings of discomfort in social situations for a long time. Having chatted to him on email, I decided to embark on some one on one sessions over Skype. After just one session, those feelings of discomfort had completely vanished, I found myself feeling completely calm and relaxed in situations that had previously made me stiffen up, feel self conscious, awkward and generally very uncomfortable. The EFT exercises he guided me through had proved remarkably effective, I was literally re-writing my subconscious and freeing myself from old negative emotions and beliefs.
I had also discussed with sebastiaan my binge drinking problem that had existed for many years and we set about tackling this next. Issues from my past, relationships with family members etc etc were looked at and one by one were dissolved on a subconscious level with the guidance of sebastiaan and EFT tapping. I came to understand that the subconscious is incredibly powerful and whilst it always believes it is helping you, often negative events, emotions and feelings get stuck in there and rear their ugly heads beyond your control, causing all sorts of problems in your life – from social anxiety to depression to binge drinking to over eating etc etc etc. EFT work has to power to transform you back to your true self, to your highest potential, to clear out your system of all the bad stuff. Sebastiaan has clearly mastered this technique and guides you through it effortlessly.
The results I have had have been amazing. After many years of trying various things in vain, I have seen spectacular results very quickly since working with sebastiaan.
Quite frankly, I have never felt better and I strongly recommend his work, it has done wonders for me.
things have improved alot for me, i feel much more relaxed in social situations and i know its only going to get better and better. A huge improvement though, i am simply not getting those awkward feelings – great stuff!
Thank You Sebastiaan
I was once a confident (yet slightly shy at times) popular guy. After a lifetime of negativity from people, a break up with my girlfriend combined with a few traumatic social experiences,
I fell in a very negative, anxious and paranoid state for years. It got so bad; I was terrified just leaving the house. I thought of myself as a worthless loser, I was constantly paranoid about what other people thought and I was always fighting anxiety and checking in to see how anxious I was.
Hitting rock bottom (agoraphobia), I realised something had to be done and I put myself on a mission to get rid of this anxiety. However, it was an ongoing struggle.
After coming across Sebastiaan’s videos on Youtube, I liked what I saw as I had some results with EFT prior. I really wanted to go ahead with it, but being socially anxious every doubt and negative thought came into my head…. “He’s going to think I’m weird, how could this possibly work for me? Can he really make me socially confident? This guy has to be a scam!”….. the list goes on .. However, I thought, what if this guy could actually turn my life around and what if I did become confident? He wasn’t asking much in return and he did have the money back guarantee.. I put negative thoughts aside and I just did it.
I emailed Sebastiaan and from the start you could tell this guy meant business and was a great guy. Once I logged on to the Social Confidence System I was highly impressed.
Before the first session with Sebastiaan, I was very nervous.. Doing a weird technique over skype with a stranger and telling him about my problems, that were my secret and noone knew about, scared the hell out of me. However the things that terrified me to open up about, he had experienced exactly the same, or similar.. Remember he has been in socially anxious shoes.
After the first session with Sebastiaan, I remember feeling lighter. The next day at University, talking to people wasn’t so bad and I could concentrate in class. I was actually learning instead of worrying about my anxious thoughts and about what everyone else thought.
Although the process wasn’t linear, as I write this it seems ridiculous that these ludicrous thoughts of the past frightened me so much.
I am a whole different person to what I was when I first started, I am more powerful and in control.
Sebastiaan is an excellent and inspirational EFT practitioner, he is very professional, intelligent, compassionate and a down to earth good bloke 🙂 He has gone above and beyond in helping me overcome my social anxiety. I highly recommend you to go ahead and get skype coaching and Sebastiaan’s Social Confidence System. It’s a small price to pay for a life without fear. You won’t be disappointed.
I can’t thank Sebastiaan enough!.. Thank you
2 days after I can definitely feel things changing. I’m noticing alot of positive changes in the way I am thinking and behaving. I just want to say thanks for your help and for how courageous you are!
Thought I would update you with my progress. Basically I have been feeling more confident.
I went to a party on the weekend and still had some anxiety but I am feeling more relaxed. So much so that I am considering getting my old band back together.
Hi, I have been struggling with social anxiety for many years. In middle school I was so afraid of what other people would think of me that I hardly ever spoke out in school.
I had a desire to be social but my anxiety held me back. I watched as other kids talked and enjoyed themselves in social situations. I knew there was something wrong, and wanted to change it desperately… my problem was taking the joy out of life.
I felt trapped.
Throughout high school I worked improving my social ability with limited success. As time went on I got more and more determined to overcome my anxiety, I worked hard to put myself out there in uncomfortable situations. I continued to make progress, but it was a long and painful process.
In my search to overcome my social anxiety I came across Sebastiaan’s site, and decided to give it a try. If it really worked it would be worth every penny.
As soon as I started EFT with Sebastiaan, I noticed marked differences in how I felt during social situations, I felt more at ease and able to contribute to conversations and really enjoy myself without having to worry about what others thought of me.
This was a great help, I was able to make some great strides to becoming social anxiety free! Even though I still feel anxiety at times, I believe it is no more than a normal person would feel, and it does not affect me in a negative way. My social anxiety is no longer controlling my life, and I am so grateful for that! Thanks, Sebastiaan!
It has been about exactly 7 days days since our second session, and i woke up feeling great. Today was not as horrible as last week.
I honestly forgot to think about what people thought of me and actually enjoyed the conversations i had 😀 : D. I hope this persists because it feels great! Thank you once again for the great coaching.
The only update I have, is that I have a date on Thursday! Can we cancel our Thurs (19th) appointment? 😀
The only update I have for you is that my date last night was one of the best dates I’ve ever been on!
We hung out visiting till 2am, and he is totally interested in me for who I am! OMG!!! ! LOL!
We’ve already set a date to hang out next week. He fits all top 3 qualities from my list we went over. (Heart of Gold, Positive, Great sense of humor)
All this wouldn’t have happened without the EFT work we’ve been doing!
Thank you so much Sebastiaan!
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I find you very competent,friendly,warm and very understanding person to be. Your kind manner makes me always feel relax although it was not like that from the start,I think you can understand why. For me personally I feel I can tell you everything and we can still laugh afterwards, that’s what makes you so different.
Thank you very much for your help up to now.
I feel amazing today, thank you! 😀
I did have crazy, movie like dreams as usual, however, they were extremely vivid and detailed which always means I’m in a very happy state of mind.
Thank you so much Sebastiaan!
After one session:
Just to comment, I had the first good sleep in my life naturally last night. Thank you!
I guess it was because I had nightmares about people beating me up before, and now that my bullying problem is like resolved or partially resolved, I feel a lot better!
I’ve been having like really terrible sleep problems, and last night was really the first time I went to sleep almost immediately, and this morning, I was surprised that I woke up at 10:30am, which is weird because I usually wake up intermittently between 8am, then fall back asleep, wake up at 9am, 10am, 12am, 1pm etc… Wow…
Also, the first time I studied yesterday, it was like the first time I had like laser concentration and focus again. I feel like I am realizing my max potential since I am more focused with less internal emotional distractions. wow.. Thx you Sebastiaan
After ten sessions:
Just wanted to update you. I made out with a girl for the first time at a fraternity party on campus. J
I just walked up to her, with uber confidence, and started dancing with her, and we just made out 😀 I never kissed a girl before, so it was like “woah” lol kinda thing. Thank you dude, if I didn’t use EFT and your tapping session to get over approach anxiety, I would have lived a different life right now. Thank you.
After two sessions (I coached C.A. as part of the tappingforteens.com project):
After the first session, I was amazed by the results. The change happened immediately! I could feel the decrease in social anxiety right away.
Sebastiaan was really helpful and understanding. He was very nice and he made me feel comfortable during the sessions. My social anxiety is extremely reduced. I now have a more positive attitude, and I am more outgoing. If you are considering EFT, I would like to tell you to go for it! It might have some odd techniques, but it definitely works!
My experience with the Social Confidence coaching was life saving and life changing. It turned my life around and turned me around and pointed me in the right direction to cure my Social Anxiety and depression. Instead of walking backwards and falling back to my regular negative cycle, the coaching and the tools in the coaching was what gave me hope.
They kept me going to be free from anxiety and negative emotions because I knew the coaching was working session after session.
Sometimes I didn’t even realize I improved until I was like “what the hell did I just do that?!” I was doing things I wasn’t able to do without feeling intense anxiety and negative thoughts.
My life before the coaching was like a trap that I couldn’t escape. I was agoraphobic and I had a lot of trouble going out of my house. I missed out on a lot of friend invites to hangout and lots of parties. I couldn’t even sit in class in my desk in peace and concentrate on my work because I had too many anxious thoughts and feelings and I felt like everyone was judging my every move.
I was practically paralyzed by anxiety. I felt like there was no way out of this hole I was in. Until I bumped in to Sebastiaan and he introduced me to all his coaching tools that gave me immediate results and I was moving forward week by week getting better and better.
My experience with the coaching was great. Sebastiaan (the coach) was very understanding and encouraging and had my best intensions in mind. Session after session I gained a ton of new knowledge to keep me motivated and coming back for more.
He is a great coach and knows all the shortcuts to cure Social Anxiety Disorder as quick as possible and permanently. When you feel better and notice progress the only thing that happens after that is more and more progress. The anxiety doesn’t come back. Its all uphill.
The EFT technique was an awesome tool to get rid of my negative feelings and emotions like anxiety, hopelessness, depression etc.
Now I am able to be relaxed and have fun in social situations without letting fear or anxiety ruin it for me. I feel positive feelings and emotions that I’ve never felt before in a long time and it brought back memories of times were my anxiety wasn’t bad and I remember feeling those same emotions and feelings and I knew the old me was coming back.
Now talking to people and going out doesn’t sound like a nightmare and I no longer worry about it weeks before the situation because I know everything is going to go well and I will have a great time. And I do.
This is a great package I would definitely recommend anyone suffering with social anxiety disorder to try. I was a bit skeptical before trying it cause it sounded to good to be true but I’m glad I did it and didn’t let my negative mind win and decided to give it a try. There’s nothing to loose and everything to gain!
After one session:
Everything has been going pretty good. The visualization of the room puts a huge smile on my face and seems to be working.
I definitely feel better about myself. I still feel uncomfortable in social situations and find myself unable to find the words. However whenever a difficult situation comes up full of anxiety I cannot help but feel calm and peaceful.
After 5 sessions:
I am very grateful for how peaceful I feel. I never though I could feel this good about anything. I have so much less anxiety it is crazy. Even around people I feel very powerful and confident. I cannot wait to see where I will be at the end of all this.
I no longer have a hard time sleeping because of my anxiety. Now I have a hard time sleeping because I am so excited!!!
For the first time I wasn’t worried about “What will they think of me? They’re going to think I’m a loser because I’m currently unemployed. No one will respect me because I don’t have a job”. Those are a few of the thoughts that have kept me from meeting people.
I hung out with my brother, his wife and my nephew a few days ago, and felt it was much easier to just be myself and feel relaxed around them. My brother’s wife is sarcastic towards me and puts me down whenever I see her and it usually really gets to me and upsets me. This time, I just joked right back with her, or had something smart ass to say back and I never got upset. We all had a great time!
Hi, that session we did with the surface stuff worked great. About a day after our session, I spoke to about 3 girls (beautiful girls) and my god I felt good. I felt so natural
No more pickup stuff for me, being completely natural with a girl is SOOO much better and I can tell they dig me 😉 I’m having a party tomorrow and thanks to you I actually feel good about it!!
Anyways great stuff, can’t wait for our next session!!!
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