9. The social anxiety to social confidence journey

In this episode…

We go into depth on the journey we undertake when we move from social anxiety to social confidence.

Gene suffered from specific social anxiety: “I was totally fine performing on stage for 7000 people. But when I was engaging with a person 1 on 1 I didn’t have control because the other person had more agency, they could make choices. And that unpredictability of how they would respond was crippling. For me it was the starting of conversations.”

Gene shares what he did to overcome his social anxiety using the tapping, and he also paints a picture of what to expect, and what mindset to take to keep going:

“It’s really important for us to have a clear understanding of what the transformational path looks like as we’re moving through it. It makes a big difference for people because it also gives them the ability to when we recognise these small steps we’ve made forward, it gives us the sense of achievement and momentum and so we keep after it.”

This episode gives you a proper mindset that empowers you and keeps you going until you have the outcome you want.

Gene’s bio:

Gene is an EFT tapping practitioner who works with people to help them overcome limiting beliefs, anxiety, and relationship challenges.

He studied hypnotism, NLP, guided imagery, parts work, and meridian based tapping protocols.

Aside from this he’s also worked with inmates in prison to help them deal with their anger issues, and he has written a book on anger management.

Quoting Gene:

“The times that I feel anxious, the times that I feel overwhelmed, the times that I feel insecure it’s because I on some level have decided “my worth is determined by how someone else judges and evaluates me”. When I am in a position where I recognise my own worth, and I am making that judgment myself and seeing myself as worthy because that’s intrinsic about me, then navigating my day is really easy. I’m no longer trying to appease or try to live up to someone else’s definition of success and I’m just simply trying to be me in this moment. And when I do that I have so much more control. And regardless of what comes I’m able to respond with so much more grace.”

Gene’s empowering resource:

Art & Fear: Observations On the Perils (and Rewards) of Artmaking

Gene’s favourite quote:

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken
-Oscar Wilde

Gene’s website:

Click here to go to his website (www.tappingqanda.com)

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