45. The importance of healing your emotional wounds

In this episode…

David describes the 5 innate, natural needs we come into the world with. And he goes into detail on how these not being met by our parents cause our emotional wounds.

David goes on to share ways in which our emotional wounds damage our current relationships, and how healing your emotional wounds benefits you in feeling calm and present in social situations.

David’s bio:

David Richo is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and writer.

He received his BA in psychology in 1962, his MA in counseling psychology in 1969, and his PhD in clinical psychology the year of my birth, in 1984. Since 1976, David has been a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor.

David is known for drawing on Buddhism, poetry, and Jungian perspectives in his work. He’s the author of many books, one of which being “When the Past Is Present – Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage Our Relationships”.

Quoting David:

“When our needs were not fulfilled we would become fearful of being with people because they could misattune and betray our needs the same way our parents did. And we might also on the other hand have such a bottomless pit of needs (for the needs that weren’t fulfilled) that we become a burden for anyone who wants to be in a relationship with us because we demand a lot more attention, acceptance, appreciation, etc than an ordinary adult would ask for.”

David’s website:

David’s website is here.

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The free course to heal emotional wounds easily and quickly is here.

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