20. How to make dating comfortable and safe

In this episode…

Cathy Vartuli, who didn’t date for 13 years because she’s a 320 pound woman who was afraid to get rejected for her weight, shares her story of transformation in this interview. She did a session with an expert and two weeks later she was dating and has been on hundreds of dates since.

She says: “I had all the fears about how I looked. As I worked through it, I realised all of us have insecurities. And that was a big A-HA moment. I thought I was the only person in the world that felt awkward and out of place and everybody else was fine. Because I can’t see in other people’s heads, I had this belief that they had it all together and it was just me that’s messed up. When I started letting go of that enough to get closer to people I realised everybody feels awkward.”

And she also shares:

-How much self acceptance has to do with dating
-What she did to make dating safe for herself and how you can make it safe and fun
-How to take the pressure off dating

Cathy’s bio:

Cathy is a sex-positive Emotional Freedom Coach who helps people transform their traumas into their greatest strengths using love, laughter and inner guidance. She uses a practical yet intuitive approach to help people connect with their own power and guidance.

Since 2006, Cathy has worked with 1000s of clients, and loves helping people reclaim their confidence, self-expression and inner power.

Quoting Cathy:

“I’ve learned to accept myself. This is who I am and this is who I get to be. And I get to live my life. I didn’t want to wake up at the end of my life and go “where did my life go?”. I wanted to start living it now. And the only way to do that is to start accepting yourself where you are right now, with your anxiety, with your awkwardness.”

Cathy’s empowering resource:

Robert Golver – no more mister nice guy

Cathy’s favourite quote

“Say the things you don’t want to say, scare them away if you can in the beginning and then if they stay they’re a good fit and you’re going to have an easy time with it.
-Reid Mihalko”

Cathy’s website:

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