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In this post, I share why overcoming social anxiety is a process…
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Sebastiaan: Hello, this is Sebastiaan from social-anxiety-solutions.com. I am a social confidence coach and I help people overcome their social anxiety. I do that by combining traditional psychology with Eastern energy psychology which puts your results on steroids and you can actually overcome your social anxiety completely. You feel relaxed and at ease in social situations, you can be yourself, you can connect with people and you can actually have a great time without being piss-drunk which is nice.
Anyway, here’s my quick social anxiety tip of the week. Overcoming your social anxiety is not an event but it’s a process. It’s not something that happens, you go see a coach and you do some of these techniques and after this session you’re done with it. I mean it could happen but it’s not very likely. It’s likely going to be a process over time in which you chip away at the layers of social anxiety that you’ve built up over the years.
How do you do that?
Well, let’s look at what social anxiety really is. In a social situation where when anxiety comes up for you your brain is perceiving a threat.
That threat might be getting rejected, looking foolish, embarrassing yourself, being criticized, getting red, looking anxious and people noticing it, getting judged negatively. All of these things are registered as potential threats in your mind. Not in everyone’s mind just for people who experience social anxiety and experience that, massively myself so I can speak about it.
Your brain is perceiving a threat and it’s reacting to that thread by firing off its biological built-in response to that thread called the fight flight freeze response.
What that does is this little part of your brain called the amygdala, an almond shaped part of the brain fires off a bunch of hormones – adrenaline, cortisol and that gets released in your bloodstream.
These make you hyperalert.
Your pupils dilate, your mouth likely goes dry, your heart starts to race, you feel a lump in your throat. Your blood goes away from your digestive system because when you’re facing a danger you don’t need to be digesting stuff and your blood goes to your outer limbs, so you can run from the danger or fight it. Or if you can’t do either you freeze.
That’s that response. That’s what’s happening. That’s what’s going on for you and that’s what you’re dealing with.
Now most people with social anxiety have been dealing with it for a long time and then overcoming it isn’t as easy as applying some of these techniques.
If you’ve watched my channel for a while you know I talk a lot about tapping and Energy Psychology and those kinds of techniques. They’re massively powerful and they can actually get you results whereas just changing your thoughts and facing your fears is a bit outdated. It’s helpful but it’s very outdated compared to what is possible when you combine it with Energy Psychology.
But it’s then still a process of dealing with all the layers. You’ve learned, your brain has learned to perceive these threats through experiences.
A repetitive negative experience in early childhood as well as traumatic experiences growing up and it has made meanings from those things that happened, and it has formed beliefs. These beliefs cause the perception of threat. You can address these but there’s a whole bunch of them.
There’s a whole way in which your social anxiety is pieced together. There are feelings about your social anxiety. There’s subconscious resistance to letting go of it.
Basically, it is a big problem, a complex problem but any complex big problem can be chopped down into smaller pieces and each small piece that you take off of a big problem makes the problem a little bit smaller. That’s a process and you can do that.
You just got to start doing it and you got to keep doing it and you got to be consistent or at least get back to it over and over and over until the task of overcoming your social anxiety is completed.
It’s a process to overcome it.
Alright. I hope that’s been helpful. I kept it under five minutes and if you want to learn how to overcome your social anxiety go to my website or get my free social confidence starter kit where I teach you some of the best techniques that I’ve learned to overcome my own social anxiety. I’ve helped hundreds of clients for thousands of hours since 2009 and you can get that also at my website or below this video.
All right, I hope it’s been helpful. Thank you very much. Talk to you soon. Subscribe, I release video every Thursday. Talk to you soon, bye.