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Most people that start with tapping are obsessively focused on trying to get rid of their social anxiety and reach social confidence
They want to feel at ease socially
They want to be able to speak their mind
They want to get away from this problem as quickly as possible
And that makes sense!
However, when you’ve been suffering from social anxiety, then it’s going to take some time to get rid of the issues that build up your SA.
That’s why it is called the #JourneyToSocialEase
There is a process of transformation.
And you got to believe in that process.
Learn to appreciate the process.
And that will bring you the confidence that you are longing for.
If you want to start learning how to tap on your social anxiety issues, you can tap along with this old video by going to this link.
Or you can tap along with a new tap-along video by going to this link.
Most people that start with tapping are obsessively focused on trying to get rid of their social anxiety and reach social confidence.
They want to feel at ease socially.
They want to be able to speak their mind.
They want to get away from this problem with social anxiety as quickly as possible.
And of course, that makes all the sense in the world.
However, the reality is that when you’ve been suffering from social anxiety, as most people do for a long time, most of them, or a lot of them for as long as you can remember, like from early childhood, then it’s going to take some time to get rid of this issue.
It’s going to take a journey to go from social anxiety all the way to effortless social ease.
And if you are then obsessively focused on achieving that outcome, and every tapping session is like, “Oh, am I there yet? Am I there yet?” – that’s going to be very demotivating.
Rather, what you want to do is, instead of just having the reward / the cookie, at the end of the journey, look for little bits of progress, and put the reward in taking the effort.
So learn to appreciate the process of transformation.
Learn to appreciate making little bits of progress every single time and look back to where you came from, rather than only obsessively focusing on where it is that you want to be.
Now it’s good to keep your goal in mind, you know what it is that you’re going for, and you have committed to that.
Social ease is nothing less than that.
But appreciate every time you’re doing some inner work to get yourself to the next level.
But don’t just do it for the outcome.
And this is an interesting concept to understand.
You want to learn to appreciate and respect the process. Because you can think to yourself: “I am doing the work”.
Right now, I’m tapping.
Right now, I am doing something to improve myself, I can be proud of myself, I’m doing the right thing.
A lot of people say: “Oh, I’m not tapping or I forget to tap or I’ll feel like it, maybe I’ll do it next time.”
Rather, in those moments, you can take the lead.
In other words, you can lead yourself and be a leader of your own life and take responsibility in your own hands, and start doing what needs to be done. Because that’s what successful people do.
And you’re then doing a successful thing in order to get yourself closer to where it is that you want to be.
But in the act of doing so, you can be proud of yourself, you can be pleased with yourself, you can appreciate the process of going towards where you want to be, and then you’re rewarding yourself for the process.
And the reward is not just attached to the outcome.
If I take this out of the realm of social anxiety (this is how I got to this idea), like working out.
Now, when I’m working out in the beginning, let’s just say the goal is to get into proper shape, to have good stamina, to be healthy, and so on.
But if that’s my only focus, then it’s going to be painful.
“I don’t want to work out blah, blah.”
But if I learn to appreciate the process of working out, and rather than fighting against myself, when I’m on the running track, and like: “oh man, I got to do this, because I want to be in shape. Why am I doing this?”
Instead, I’m like: “I’m doing the right thing. I’m the kind of person you want to attach to your identity. I’m the kind of person who does the kind of things that need to be done in order to get the outcome that I want. And I’m learning to appreciate the process because I’m doing these kinds of things anyway.”
That’s the kind of person I am.
So I respect myself for doing this.
I feel good about doing the right thing.
I appreciate the process.
Well by that kind of inner dialogue, I’m already feeling good about myself.
I’m already feeling good about what it is that I’m doing, even though I’m not at my outcome yet.
I hope this helps you.
When you have an opportunity to do some tapping, do it and then appreciate yourself for taking the action, even if it doesn’t get you to your end goal yet because that’s the journey.
Learn to appreciate the journey.
Learn to respect the process.
And appreciate yourself for doing it.
Hope this helps you. This is Seb from social-anxiety-solutions.com
Now if you want to do some powerful tapping right now, in order to practice this, and in order to make some progress on your journey to social ease, I suggest checking out this older video or this more recent video and tap along with it and make some progress right now.
Talk to you very soon.