Move Beyond Your Comfort Zone

So, what exactly is that?

According to Wikipedia.com:

“A comfort zone indicates the limited set of behaviors and environments that a person can engage in without becoming anxious.”

Let me try to explain it in a bit more clear way by giving you two examples:

Say that you feel comfortable being with one or two friends. But when you are in a group setting, you feel anxious.

Then being with one friend is inside, and being in a group setting is outside your comfort zone.

Say that you feel confident joking around with your family and friends. But when you are around colleagues you refrain from doing so because you feel anxious. You don’t feel comfortable enough to joke around and so you don’t do it.

Joking around with your friends is within your comfort zone, joking around with your colleagues is outside it.

Since going outside this zone feels uncomfortable, most people live their whole lives inside it. They emotionally don’t dare to go outside it, into unfamiliar territory.

What about you? Are you someone that only does what is familiar to you and what feels comfortable? Do you get out of your comfort zone?

I know for myself that I had to really push myself to get out of my comfort zone when I was suffering from social anxiety. I had to use all the psychological tricks I could get my hands on.

And I still struggled to persist in doing so… If you are reading this -having social anxiety yourself, you know what I’m talking about. There’s just such an amount of pressure that it seems too challenging to keep up the behavior for long periods of time.

It takes huge amounts of courage and determination.

But ultimately, to overcome your social fears, you have to get outside your comfort zone.

In this article I will give you a rundown of how I accomplished doing this for myself. I provide a link to the website that enormously helped me, and I will give you some mindsets and tips on how to more comfortably get outside your comfort zone yourself.

Regarding Social Phobia…

When you have a social phobia you have a very small comfort zone. Stepping outside it is an intense and highly anxiety-ridden experience.

I could, with a lot of courage do it from time to time, but I could never keep up with the behavior. It was just too much pressure.

When you are socially-phobic, stepping out of your familiar areas is much more challenging than it is for “normal” people. There are just too many negative emotions.

That’s why I highly recommend going to this website and learning and using the tools that you find there. Or, better yet…

If you want to completely overcome your social anxiety disorder, getting coached by me personally (from the comfort of your own home and the ease of sitting behind your PC) have a look at the specifics of my 1 on 1 Skype coaching package Social Anxiety Coaching

For now, the below techniques will help you to more persistently explore your boundaries.

Tips and Mindsets

  • Become dissatisfied To be able to move towards what you want, you have to really become dissatisfied with your current comfort zone. Ask yourself how your boundaries are limiting your life today. See that this barrier in your mind is preventing you to have the life of your dreams.
  • Have a goal Speaking of living the life of your dreams…
    • How does that look like for you?
    • What exactly do you want?
    • Do you want to be comfortable talking to people you know?
    • Do you want to have amazing social skills?
    • Do you want a huge social life?
    • Or do you want really close friends?

    Figure out what your dream life is and visualize it. Make your self image one that has already achieved the dream life. See yourself as that person in your mind. Our brain wants something to work towards, a target. So give it a good one!

  • Get rid of your negative, irrational beliefs

    To uncover the beliefs that are stopping you to move beyond your current boundaries, ask yourself:

    • Why does it feel awkward or uncomfortable to do X?
    • What is so risky about doing X?
    • What scares me about reaching this goal?
    • What’s the downside of stepping out of my comfort zone?
    • What’s stopping me from taking action now?

    Once you have uncovered these limiting beliefs, go change them here:
    Steps To Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

  • Change your habits We are creatures of habit. We live by routine, doing the same things over and over. It’s familiar to us.

    Start to incorporate a new, positive habit into your life until it’s familiar to you. Then start another one, and another one.

    By doing this you expand your imaginary walls. If you keep doing this, eventually stepping outside your comfort zone will become a habit to you.

  • Do new things Doing new, challenging things gives you confidence. This confidence spills over into all other areas of your life where you can use it. So start a new hobby, learn a new language or go bungee jump!
  • Don’t conform Don’t listen to what other people or society is telling you is “normal”.

    I am living in a different country every year. I have a very unusual job. I travel the world, I am agnostic and I say what’s on my mind in almost all situations.

    I’m not stating this to brag, but to illustrate that I practice what I preach. For me THIS is what’s normal, this is what life is for ME.

    And you know what, I’ve been laughed at and flat out ridiculed for the choices I make in my life. But I am happy and I live the life of MY dreams.

    Create your own life for yourself. Make your dream life a goal and go for it, no matter what people think of it.

I would like to advise you to do whatever you have to do to overcome these mental barriers. Staying your whole life within the same mental limits will cause you to live a life full of frustration and regret.

If you are old, thinking back on life; You don’t want to be saying “I wish I did this and I wish I did that…” or “You know, if I was still young I would definitely…”

Live your life NOW!

And if you are ready to completely overcome your social anxiety NOW, getting coached from the comfort of your own home and the ease of sitting behind your PC, my Skype Coaching Packages where we use the power of EFT is what you are looking for to achieve social confidence in ALL social situations.

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“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

Brian Tracy

If you want to completely overcome your social anxiety disorder, getting coached by me personally (from the comfort of your own home and the ease of sitting behind your PC) have a look at the specifics of my 1 on 1 Skype coaching package Social Anxiety Coaching

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This consists of 2 video’s with accompanying PDF’s you can start watching in minutes from now. These will teach you some simple to use, yet very effective techniques for dealing with anxiety.

Doing so will help you out immediately in dealing with your social anxiety.

Fill in your name and email address, then click on the subscribe button to receive the next issue of Secrets Of Social Confidence!

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