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Do you have an upcoming social event that you are anxious about?
Sebastiaan: Hello, this is Sebastiaan from social-unxiety-solutions.com. I’m a formal social disorder sufferer and a social confidence coach. I help people overcome social anxiety – Hey, hey, no surprise there. I’ve been doing it for a long time since 2009 in the past nine years and I’ve worked with hundreds of people and a lot close to 5,000 hours.
Doing that work I’ve come to quite some conclusions and one of the problems that a lot of the people that I work with and that I have faced myself is the fear of anxiety symptoms and a fear of becoming anxious. That anticipatory anxiety is quite bothersome.
Now it’s not as easy to overcome when for one it’s not as easy to overcome when you just use a thought-based approaches because social anxiety is an emotional problem and not just a thinking problem. You can’t think your way out of your anxiety if you could you’d be free of your anxiety by now.
What I’m going to do is I’m going to guide you through a little exercise and that exercise is called tapping or EFT. It stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. It looks really silly because you are tapping in your face and body and what that does is it starts to disconnect the emotions from the thoughts that you’re having. It starts to decrease the excessive emotions that you’re having about you feeling anxiety.
This won’t resolve your social anxiety, but it might reduce it a bit. You can solve your social anxiety completely when you apply this technique that I’m guiding you through in the right way to the right targets. How to do that is way beyond the scope of a simple video like this.
This is just to give you a bit of a taster of what is possible when you actually learn all you can about this technique and more specifically how you learn to use this technique to overcome your social anxiety, which is what my work is all about, which you can find out a whole bunch of stuff and free stuff and on my website which is social-anxiety-solutions.com.
I’m going to guide you through this experience now.
Now it’s very simple even if you’ve never heard of this technique you can just follow along with me. It’s like “monkey see – monkey do”.
I’m going tap on certain places on the body, guess what? You’re going to follow along and nothing bad will happen. You just might tune into some emotions and as we do the tapping that will settle down the emotions.
Hard to believe I know but if you just watch me do this, that’s not going to give you much benefit. If you actually follow along, worst thing that happens is nothing. Best thing that happens is you’re going to decrease your emotion.
If you watch any of the tons of videos that I have on my channel, you’ll see that many people have commented under these videos that this stuff actually works.
You don’t have to repeat this – Have you ever noticed this? That you get anxious, you experience these anxiety symptoms, they come up for you and then you try to push them away and you’re not happy with them and you’re frustrated about them, you get angry, you feel ashamed and that actually makes the anxiety get worse. You try to hide it, but it just grows. What if instead you accepted them?
What you resist, persists. What you accept starts to settle down.
It is hard to get you to wrap your mind around if you hear this for the first time but when you actually say “Okay, alright I’m experiencing these symptoms and I’m okay anyway”. Try and see how it works.
Great, like I said this is just a taster, just a small bite of the whole meal when it comes to overcoming your social anxiety but likely you feel a bit more relaxed, you feel a bit less upset about the thought of becoming anxious and that’s for me to give you a taste of what’s possible.
Now if you actually want to overcome your social anxiety go to my website social-anxiety-solutions.com, sign up for the free social confidence starter kit that you get when you click on the button that says, “overcome social anxiety” and I’ll send that over to you. You get a bunch of videos from me, you hear how I overcame my social anxiety and how you can do the same. We’ll take it from there.
I hope it’s been helpful for you. If you have any questions or comments, please post them in the video below and I’ll be there in the comment section. Ask me a good question and I’ll be there to assist.
Alright, this is Sebastiaan from social-anxiety-solutions.com. Subscribe here. I release a video like this every week. Alright, talk to you soon. Bye-bye.