If you worry about how to look confident, it is obvious that you don’t have the confidence coming from within. Because when you already have confidence from within, you don’t worry about looking confident and you automatically look confident.
Go to “How Do You Become Confident?” for developing confidence from the inside out.
In this particular article I’ll give you some quick-fixes to feel and look more confident.
How To Look Confident To Others
I have done a lot of research on how to look confident. I thought that if I could just appear to look confident, then at least others wouldn’t know how I really felt on the inside. And I became pretty good at it.
Now I highly suggest you work on getting true, core confidence. But before you get to that place, the below tips on how to look confident to others will help you out a great deal.
Your body and mind are linked together.
Or as some theories say, they are one and the same. Your negative emotions show up in your body. Fear is often felt in the chest and throat for example, and shame can be felt as heat in the face.
You can therefore also use your body to influence your emotions. If you make your body look confident, you will get confident feelings.
- Upper body:
Lift your chest and make your shoulders go wide. Once you lift your chest, your body automatically aligns itself. Keep your hands comfortable along side your body. If you’re not sure what to do with your hands/fingers, lightly touch your middle finger with your thumb.
- Lower body:
Stand firm. Feet shoulder width apart.
Breathe slowly and deeply. Shallow breathing is anxious breathing. Deep, slow breaths make you feel very calm and relaxed. Which in turn makes you look confident.
Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. This makes you feel good and confident. This one is very important!
Now if you feel too anxious to smile, and therefore get a big fake smile…
… try this approach:
Think of something funny or pleasurable. Think of this beforehand. Something that is hilarious to you. Maybe a joke from your favorite stand-up comedian. Once you have this, think of it and allow yourself to smile. It doesn’t have to be a huge smile; smile on the inside.
Smiling on the inside appears in the face. It shows in your eyes, you get that slight tingle. You’re smiling with your eyes.
- Think unrealistically:
Since you are most likely talking very negative to yourself about yourself and about other people…
Your thought influence how you feel. When you think negatively, you’ll feel bad. When you think positively you can feel good. So think very positive things. Even though that doesn’t seem to be ‘real’ or ‘realistic’ to you.
Think that everyone likes you, is friendly and wants to be your friend.
Use these tips on how to look confident and feel more confident while you do the deeper inner work as well so these techniques become automatic for you.
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