15 High Self Esteem Key Character Traits

For merely being on earth we all should have and feel high self esteem. However, society has programmed us to believe we need to accomplish things and excel in our lives to achieve this.

The media programs us to be this way. Buy this and you will feel good. Wear this and you will be popular. Get a good job, earn respect. Etc.

This is false, you can have it from within.

This article will give you the 15 traits of people with high self esteem. After reading this you will have a decent understanding of what it is.

By knowing this you can then read in a future article how to actually go about building it.

Good, So What Is Self Esteem?

This is bececause there are 2 forms of it. There is external- and internal self esteem.

External self esteem is that what you get when you accomplish something. Or the self esteem you feel when you are in a specific role and/or environment.

So say that for example you are a manager somewhere. You then might feel high self esteem because of the situation/role you’re in.

However, when you go outside the place you’re not the manager anymore and you lose the good, confident feelings because it’s not coming from within. It was role/situation based.

This is the external and temporary form and we won’t focus on this as we are looking for lasting results.

Real, high self esteem is basically seeing yourself as a worthy human being. It is how you think of yourself. Better said, it’s how you overall value yourself and how worthy you feel you are. It’s how sure you feel in your skills and abilities. It comes from within. It’s a feeling.

That’s still a bit vague right? OK, let me ask you some questions…

• Do you believe you are a worthy human being?
• Do you feel you belong here?
• Do you feel good about yourself?
• Do you like, love and respect yourself?
• Do you expect to be respected?
• Do you feel you deserve success and happiness?
• Do you feel proud of who you are and what you stand for?

A few years ago that where a looooot of “no’s”, “not really‘s“ and head twisting “nah-ah’s” for me… If you suffer from social anxiety the answer to a lot of the above questions will probably also be no (or "not really" or "nah-ah"). Or at least not a full convincing “yes!!!”

Don’t worry, we’ll work on that in later articles.

First let’s get a more clear understanding of what high self esteem exactly is. This model with the 15 most important character traits helps me as I can consciously build it for myself by knowing and practicing this.

I hope it’s helpful for you as well.

The 15 traits...

• Feel worthy of love and approval. They approve of themselves and are not desperate for other peoples approval.
• Know what is important to them in life. They knows their values.
• Know their strengths and weaknesses. They build their strengths and accept their weaknesses as a part of them (while still working on their weaknesses).
• Know what they will and will not accept. They created their own rules about this.
• Know themselves very well. Because of this they always value their own opinion of themselves more than the opinion others have of them.

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• Completely accepts themselves. They’re OK with their imperfections.
• Feel confident in being able to solve any challenges that come their way.
• Are good with other people. They radiate acceptance of themselves and other people. Other people feel this and are drawn to it. They rationalize: “Since this person is so easy-going and seems so accepting of himself, they will most likely also be accepting of me“.
• Know what they want in life.
• Are nice and friendly to people. They feels so good about themselves that they don’t feel a need to put others down to lift themselves up. They tend to be very forgiving and want to bring people up to their level.
• Have an opinion and are not afraid of sharing it. They’re OK with people thinking otherwise, but they are not going to change their opinion to please other people.
• Love life, have a sense of humor and are overall happy people.
• Know who they are, where they had to come from and where they’re going. They go for what they want without apologizing for it.
• Believe in their abilities to achieve what they want. They confidently go for it.
• Are willing to move out of their comfort zones to face the unknown and grow as a human being.

Knowing about the above traits is important in overcoming social anxiety and developing yourself into a happy, fulfilled human being.

Since this is only pure knowledge and nothing transformational per sé, let’s dive in deeper and learn about how to actually improve it.

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